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chychy108
Dec 29, 2010, 12:06 AM
On December,28,2010 my mom told me that her and my dad were getting a divorce that my mom just doesn't feel any love any more he doesn't say hi bye I love you or hug or kiss her he doesn't even talk to her so one day I came down stairs and this girl heather on Christmas was downstairs with my dad flirting with him laying on him holding his hands he gave her a diamond necklace 2 yank e candles a blanket and a bracelets I hate my dad for that my mom said that I am moving in with her in January and that I can visit my dad on weekends and I can't have my dog with me my dad gets her she says she can't live with him anymore I either can stay at my school or go to harbor point or Olimipic view I don't know what to do can anybody help me my dog is the best person in the world she is like my best friend I can tell her everything if I need to get something out I don't get why this has to happen to me HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I DO?

joypulv
Dec 29, 2010, 04:50 AM
I'm so sorry.
This happens every day, all over the world - Christmas day just made it extra awful.
How old are you? This really should be in Teens, probably. There's nothing a child can do legally.

All of us with dogs truly understand how important the unconditional and uncomplicated love of a dog is.
I hope you can talk to your mom and dad about that, even though it may take a little time.
It's not clear whether you are talking about public or private schools, so that will have a bearing on the dog situation, as will whether your mother works or will be working, will have a yard, will be in a rental where dogs are not allowed - many questions to ask AFTER you give your mom time to breathe.
Don't forget that she is grieving too. Give her lots of hugs and ask her how you can help, and you can help each other. You may have to compromise to see your dog, by being with your dad as arranged. Children don't get to decide which parent they stay with and visit.

ScottGem
Dec 29, 2010, 04:55 AM
I moved this from the Family Law forum since I don't see any legal question in your post.

Divorce sucks. I'm sorry you have to be going through it. Just remember its not about you its about your parents, you are just being caught in the fall out. The only thing you can do is make the best of it.

450donn
Dec 31, 2010, 03:43 PM
Coming from a divorced family I can tell you for certain that then only ones hurt in a divorce are the children. I am willing to bet that your parents are in their late forties or early fifties? And that they have been married about 25 years? It seems most people divorce for what ever reason around 25 years. People change, their values change. Work related stress, infidelity all play a role in what happens. Some people simply find it easier to walk out than fight to make a marriage work. There is nothing you can do about the situation, nor is it your fault. You will soon learn that one parent will start pitting you against the other parent. Don't fall into that game. And finally remember, both your parents love you. Love them back with all your heart.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 31, 2010, 05:35 PM
Divorce is hard, it does not mean that your dad or your mom does not love you, I am sure they both love you, they just no longer want or can be married. They both will most likely move on and date and find someone else to be with, That is just something that you have no control over and have to get used to and accept.

I am not sure why you can't keep the dog, perhaps they are not allowed where your mom is going to be at, perhaps she is going to have a hard time affording the dog.

Or your dad may have paid for the dog and is fighting to keep the dog to be sure to have a reason for you to want to come see him. He may be scared you may not want to visit and by having the dog you will ( I am just making u things you really never know, and will never know)