Hello all,
I need your help and I have to admit being so much confused.
Since a year or more, I am talking to a guy on net. He is decent and kind, educated and has a good job in another country, where he lives with his wife and 2 babies. We started talking by him telling me that he is bored with his wife because she is living with her parents due to some responsibilities and he can't bear this any more and he is planning to divorce her. I was so upset with this and I felt I have to help him somehow to save his marriage and I started being an angle and every day we talked for hours and I tried to indirectly tell him how important the marriage life is. I explained to him for hours that his wife needs to stay with her mom because she needs her at the moment and his wife can't say NO to her mom who was about to die. Talking. We exchange photos, we updated our life and work stuff by sharing new points together. He is asking my opinion for every tinny thing. He is asking me even what he wants to eat and what is he wearing at work for the day.
I am also attached to him. When he is at work, we both chat, then when he goes home, he logs into his email and we keep chating for hours. I asked him manytimes, and he said his wife is sleeping. He cares for me a lot by asking about me, my family and all those tinny details that he keeps worrying for , and so do I .
I sometimes feel like he loves me. He remembers small things related to me and he is reminding me of those things I many times forget. He remembers what I told him last month and he is trying to do things that will make me happy. For example, he knows that I am sad today, and he sends me a funny video and so on .
We are very polite . Very very polite, we do joke but never say a thing that can be considered flirt. I some times call him names, but he is always respecting. I feel like I love him , it is just sometimes. When I talk, he keeps waiting and keeps saying that he missed me. Many times, I feel like he cares for me as a good friend or as a sister, but sometimes I feel like he loves me other then that, why would he leave his wife sleeping and chat with me, while we were chatting almost for 2 hours during the day. But he never mentioned divorce again. He never called me although he has my phone number. But, he is always with me, and I am confused. He is working so hard all day long and at night, when he finished dinner , he is again with me, and laughing at my stupid stories.
He is sharing with me his school stories, his crushes and love letters and all. He is honest and always try to be speaking the truth. I don't know what is this.
Now that I am writing this, he waits me online, and I don't know what to do, talk to him or ignore him. If I don't talk then he keeps sending me messages that he misses me and he is worried...
I am getting attached to him and I don't want to be in a confusing situation. Please someone give me an idea about this. MUCHHHHHHHHHHH APPRECIATED.

Why not find a man who you can actually spend time with and who is available? Wouldn't that make more sense?

You say you're talking in ways that aren't flirtatious.

This whole thing is flirtatious. He is emotionally cheating on his wife with you. You need to drop this before something more becomes of it. If he has issues with his wife then let them deal with it internally, do not feel like you're helping becase you are not.