He just broke up w/ me.. still can't accept the reason he gave me.. we've been together for more than 3yrs and suddenly he just told me that he's not ready for a commitment.. we're still talking and trying to work it as friends.. but it just gives me so much pain that he's enjoying his life.. flirting w/ other girls.. and here I am still bothered by the sudden decision.. and can't move on..

You have no other choice but to move on? Say if he were to want to give it another go, you will always have that insecurity that he may leave again. If it was simple as love concurs all you would be asking this question, you would be together. It's going to take you some time to get over him, but trust me in time you will get passed it and you will find someone that won't leave you heartbroken.

I know I need to go away from him.. its just so hard to let go of something and someone that had become your world.. why was it easy for these guys to break someone else's heart.. why make promises that we're just meant to be broken.. and even if I want to hate him because of what he did.. I just keep on thinking of him more and hoping that all these is just a test that at the end of it all it will still be him and me.. :-(

Sorry, unfortunately I have been in your shoes, and after being heartbroken before I moved on as soon as I could. Go out and be social, anything to occupy your mind. If he's out there living your life, there is no reason why you shouldn't. You can only learn from it. I'm not saying never trust men or anything to that sort. Love is great. There will be jerks out there. There will be geniunely good men out there. You shouldn't make someone your whole life though, you have to have your own identity, your own life. Get out there and maybe you will find someone even greater and who will want to make you their world.

I don't know who you are.. bt thanku for the advse.. im glad I was able to find this sight.. and hope to find new friends here.. :-)

Well first off it isn't easy getting over a long term relationship. It will take time, but you have to be strong.he is enjoying his life, and its time for you to enjoy yours too.

Stop trying to work things out as friends. This is only prolonging the inevitable. Maybe he didn't tell you before, but he has been thinking of this break up for a while, and when he got his courage up, he did this break up. It was sudden for you, but not for him.

That's why you leave him alone, to get over the shock of finally finding out his feelings have changed, and accept that the chapter in your life of the last 3 years is over, and its time to mourn your loss, and heal, and start a new chapter of your life without him.

You cannot do that while you are working things out as "friends".

Dats true me and my boyfriend just broke up like 2. Days ago after being together for a year and he's out there doing he's thing Outthere today he told me he was talking to girls and day completely make me made my decision so like they say is hard to let go but if you love something let it go if it's yours it will come bck if not it was never meant to be and every love story has an end but every end is a new begin I hope you can get over him I noe itz hard but I noe you can am trying too but trust being friends with your ex just won't work I wish you the best I noe how it feels am passing trough the same