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veronica57
Dec 25, 2010, 11:11 PM
I was talking to this guy for about a month when suddenly he went completely M.I.A for two weeks... then he contacted me apologizing, saying that things were moving too quickly and he didn't want to get hurt so he tried to just cut it all off between us, BUT that he also needed to tell me something but that it had to be in person. So... about a month later we saw each other out and he proceeded to tell me.. "you're too good for me"... that he's not normally the jealous type but that he felt that with me. Now I am signed with a modeling agency and do stuff like that on the side but its not my "career".. and he claims he wants me too bad and that's why he thought not being together was the best choice for both of us because "he's a nobody" and I "need to be with a model" umm ***? So after this whole talk... literally seconds later, he grabbed my hand and proceeded to kiss me the rest of the night. THEN asked me to dinner the following Tuesday... which he blew me off for. THEN contacted me on that Thursday saying how he saw a poster of me and that now I should "understand" why he says the things that he does... we then (not purposely) ran into each other that same night... said HI and what not and then when he was leaving he grabbed my face and kissed me AGAIN! In public in front of everyone. So do I believe this guy is maybe insecure (I do know his ex cheated on him) and try to work on things... or do I just forget about it and delete him? Im so confused :/

joypulv
Dec 26, 2010, 04:04 AM
What's confusing? You are attractive and he doesn't think he is, but desires you intensely. He assumes that getting involved with you will lead to disaster for him.

If you like him, tell him that's not true. But really mean it if you say it, and TALK to each other about yourselves, your hopes and dreams and mostly what you want out of a relationship and what you expect your future to look like. Career over kids, both, white picket fence or the bright lights of the city?

Jake2008
Dec 26, 2010, 06:31 AM
It sounds to me like he is very superficial.

He's afraid that because you are model material, your looks are far more important than you, as a person. He has already told you that he feels jealousy, which is never a good sign in the beginning of a relationship.

He's also blown you off, and disappeared for two weeks, without a word. Whatever his problems are, they also include being rude. Then he blew you off a second time with the dinner date.

I think because nothing has developed, and you have a pretty good idea that, although he keeps dipping his big toe in to test the waters, he is not dating material.

You might want to consider the next time he calls you to set up a date, that you aren't available this time to risk a third time that he'll bail on you. Set some boundaries with this guy and stick to them.

sambilly
Dec 26, 2010, 08:13 PM
Well it is miraculous that he "keeps running in to you" then always making out with you, it looks as if he is using pity so it can score him some points so he would get laid. I personally think you do deserve better, if he was man enough to be with you and was able to get you and have you then he deserves you. It seems as if he is using a lot of excuses to be with you one day then the other not. Ask yourself if you want to be in one of those relationships where you always have to worry about him breaking up with you for nonsense. I personally feel if you have got signed as a model you should focus more on that and make it a career or something really good to get yourself going and start your life. Men are are extremely easy to find, and you said you are a model you shouldn't have to worry about looking for men they will come to you.
Take care.

veronica57
Dec 28, 2010, 10:19 PM
Thanks so much... totally diffferent outlook than I had on the situation!

veronica57
Dec 28, 2010, 10:20 PM
I have tried to tell him that... it doesn't seem to phase him one bit. Im pretty convinced that he's set in his ways and is just not interested. Its probably best if I cut my losses and move on... I still want to see him, but I can't keep being the only 1