I will be 19 years old in 3 weeks and I've been obsessed with getting pregnant. I've been wanting a baby since I was 16. Sometimes I look at my stomach and pretend I'm pregnant. I put myself in some fantasy world. I'm just wondering if this has happened to any other person and how I can deal with this. I don't want to go out with someone just to get pregnant. I would never trick someone into getting pregnant. I know I'm still young and I should just wait till it comes along and I am. I just want advice on how I can deal with it until the right time comes for me.

Becoming a parent changes EVERYTHING. Understand that being a parent is a wonderful thing, but the responsibilities you will have are tremendous. You are not just responsible for yourself, but for another life. You need to consider things like how able you are to find a job that not only supports yourself, but a child. You have to consider things like medical costs for both of you, food, and clothing. Daycare is very expensive these days, and if you are a single parent it can be hard to handle all of the above. Your personal life also changes quite a bit. Your every waking moment (and quite a bit while you thought you were going to finally rest) will be spent taking care of your child.

You need to consider these things, and many others... like where are you going to live. Basically, I'm trying to tell you to not rush into something you want. Maybe start with a plan of sorts. Making sure you first have a job that provides a good medical plan, and enough income that you are able to save on a monthly basis. Once the baby comes, being able to save will be near impossible. Getting pregnant is pretty easy ( unless, of course you aren't able to have children ), it's the being a good and responsible parent that's the tough part.

Good luck.

Very good posting KMSRyana. Also you need to consider that having a child isn't all fun and games. There will be so many nights that go by that you don't get a full hour of sleep between waking up with them, all night long. There will be times where they cry and cry and you have no way of knowing why, and no way of stoping it. You just have to be patient and ride it out. Being a parent is a completely unselfish job. That means, you can't go out and do the things you use to do, because you want to do it. You child always comes first. And its not something that you can just leave at the door step when you get home. Being a parent is a 24/7 for the rest of your life job, where you don't always get much appreciation in return. It is such a wonderful wonderful thing, I have a 2 year old son, and another boy on the way, and I wouldn't trade them for anything. I couldn't imagine life without them, I wouldn't want life without them. BUT you must understand how much hard work it is, and you must be ready for it. Because once you become one, there is no turning back. For your child's sake, you must be the best you can be.

I will be 19 years old in 3 weeks and I've been obsessed with getting pregnant. I've been wanting a baby since I was 16. Sometimes I look at my stomach and pretend I'm pregnant. I put myself in some fantasy world. I'm just wondering if this has happened to any other person and how I can deal with this. I don't want to go out with someone just to get pregnant. I would never trick someone into getting pregnant. I know I'm still young and I should just wait till it comes along and I am. I just want advice on how I can deal with it until the right time comes for me.

I am exactly the same and have been since I was 13 and I am also having big trouble dealing with it. Each month when my period comes I get upset I’m not pregnant. I’ve been looking for a solution but none have arisen yet. I just hope it helps you knowing that there are people out there feeling exactly the same.

citygirl00 and Mocha81, it is normal to want a baby so badly. I don't think that there are many young girls that want to grow up to be a mommy. BUT until you are settled down in a strong marriage, and hubby has a good job to be able to support the three of u, in case you are no longer able to work during your pregnancy, and chose to stay home with your kids, then you shouldn't even consider pregnancy. It would be entirely unfair to the child. And before you get yourselves pregnant, you need to stop to consider your life. Once a baby comes, lots of changes will happen, and your entire lifestyle will change. Anywhere you go, baby goes too. That limits a lot of things you can do. Once you become mommy, your adolecence is left behind you. Adulthood is the only route. You better be prepared to accept that.

I am exactly the same and have been since I was 13 and I am also having big trouble dealing with it. Each month when my period comes I get upset I’m not pregnant. I’ve been looking for a solution but none have arisen yet. I just hope it helps you knowing that there are people out there feeling exactly the same.


Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one.

No you aren't the only one. One suggestion would be to volunteer your time at a children's hospital where babies need fed, or just held.

You are way too young right now to have a baby, and you know it or you would not be here, right?

Why not fulfill yourself by helping those that need help and not tie yourself down for the rest of your life right now?

Just a thought

I have spent time as a co-op student in a daycare that was located at my high school, when I was in high school. (I graduated). I have 3 nephews and a niece, I have babysitted a lot. I have no problem taking care of a child. So that isn't an issue. My original question wasn't if I was ready or not ( like the most of you are answering). My question was , how can I get over wanting a baby so bad, without having one now. I know I want to have my career in which I'm going to college in the fall. After a few years I want one.. maybe around 22 or 23. I am 18, turning 19 in 3 weeks. I know I want to wait till then.

Then just keep in mind that you will have them some day. It's okay to start thinking of names for them and stuff like that. There is nothing wrong with thinking about babies and wanting one. Just as long as you don't go and have one when you aren't ready to. All I could think about since I was a little girl, was being a wife and mother. I am not a very happy wife, and baby #1 is on its way and will be here in July. It feels so good knowing that I waited and did it the right way. (right way for me, not for everyone). You can think about babies all you want and it doesn't hurt anything. Since you want to stop thinking about them, just know in your heart that you will have a baby when the time is right. I hope this helps!

I have spent time as a co-op student in a daycare that was located at my high school, when I was in high school. (I graduated). I have 3 nephews and a niece, I have babysitted a lot. I have no problem taking care of a child. so that isn't an issue. My original question wasn't if I was ready or not ( like the most of you are answering). My question was , how can I get over wanting a baby so bad, without having one now. I know I want to have my career in which I'm going to college in the fall. after a few years I want one.. maybe around 22 or 23. I am 18, turning 19 in 3 weeks. I know I want to wait till then.

I think you should take J-9's advice then. Spending time with the babies at the hospital might be just what you need to ease the wanting of a child. You can do some of the fun things (feeding, holding, loving) and then go home and still work on getting your career started. Not only that volunteering will make you feel good.

I think you should take J-9's advice then. Spending time with the babies at the hospital might be just what you need to ease the wanting of a child. And if you can find a way to watch some movies of a C-section or view some deliveries it might calm you "urges" for a little while.

You siad you are going to college soon. Perhaps you could put this passion towards a degree as a ob/gyn. Then you can help women through their pregnancies and deliver baby's all the time. The world is always in need of another good ob/gyn that really loves their work

I think the reason I really want a baby more then ever right now is because I'm having problems with my period where I didn't have it for over 5 months so I went to see the doctor and gyno and blood tests and all this stuff and went on birth control. I guess I'm just so afraid of not being able to get pregnant. I have my periods now with the pill but it's not how it used to be. And because I don't have a family doctor I don't get any follow ups.

I am pretty much in the same shoes as you are instead I am where you what to be. I am 21 and I will be 22 in may/07. I have been pregnant wice before the first time I got an abortion because I was to young and I regret it to this day and the second time I had a stillbirth and I have been trying every since. I think that I want it so bad its not going to happen. Just be patient. I think that I have finally made it to motherhood. I am 3 days late and most of the symptoms. So like someone said above volunteer your time. Occupy your time basically. Don't just sit at home. When the time is right then it will happen. But I am a perfect example of it is better said then done.

Good luck

No you aren't the only one. One suggestion would be to volunteer your time at a children's hospital where babies need fed, or just held.

You are way too young right now to have a baby, and you know it or you would not be here, right?

Why not fulfill yourself by helping those that need help and not tie yourself down for the rest of your life right now?!

Just a thought

I'm a nursery assistant and am around children and babies all the time; this doesn't stop broodiness at all. I know I'm not ready to have a child yet and that's why I find my emotions so difficult to deal with. Believe me you can't have any idea what it's like to be this broody or other wise you wouldn't suggest such things. I've tried the whole lot I've even tried putting all my focus on finding myself a great new job and find myself a place but it doesn't stop the feelings. You could tell me all the horror stories you like about having children and how stressful and hard it is but it really doesn't help these feelings, I've recently considered going to a councillor to see if they can help but I'm sure their going to tell me everything I've tried before. I'm not going to go off and get myself pregnant, I'm not ready and it wouldn't be fair on the child. Can anybody tell me and mocha81 something helpful and not give us lectures because they are no help.

I'm a nursery assistant and am around children and babies all the time; this doesn't stop broodiness at all. I know I’m not ready to have a child yet and that’s why I find my emotions so difficult to deal with. Believe me you can't have any idea what it's like to be this broody or other wise you wouldn't suggest such things. I’ve tried the whole lot I’ve even tried putting all my focus on finding my self a great new job and find my self a place but it doesn't stop the feelings. You could tell me all the horror stories you like about having children and how stressful and hard it is but it really doesn't help these feelings, I’ve recently considered going to a councillor to see if they can help but I’m sure their going to tell me everything I’ve tried before. I'm not going to go off and get myself pregnant, I’m not ready and it wouldn't be fair on the child. Can anybody tell me and mocha81 something helpful and not give me lectures because they are no help
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Exactly! We get each other. I always thought of being a nurse for babies but then seeing other people have babies, every day of my life and knowing it's not me. That will hurt me a lot.

Believe me you can't have any idea what it's like to be this broody or other wise you wouldn't suggest such things.
Actually, yes I can. I was not a nursery assistant at 22 years of age, I was a licensed/certified and bonded day care teacher of 20 2 year olds. This is when I became pregnant with my first child. So, please don't tell me that I don't have any idea because I am sure I have much more experience under my belt than you do! This was a suggestion that works for many people, not all.


I find my emotions so difficult to deal with.

Difficulty with emotions is normal at any stage in life. Here let me tell you. I am 42, I have had 4 children. I have had cancer, bilateral mastectomy and chemotherapy. I still would LOVE to have more children. But it is dangerous to me, and dangerous to any child I might carry. So, I understand how hard emotions are to deal with.


Believe me you can't have any idea what it's like to be this broody or other wise you wouldn't suggest such things.
Yes, I have an idea, read the answer above.


You could tell me all the horror stories you like about having children and how stressful and hard it is but it really doesn't help these feelings
Yes, you are right. Unless you have lived it personally, you can't understand, especially since you already seem to know it all.


I'm not going to go off and get myself pregnant, I'm not ready and it wouldn't be fair on the child.
You are a VERY smart woman to understand that. Many young women believe they are bulletproof. At least you understand the consequences.

Now, please do not lecture me on what I do and do not understand. I have many more years on you and many more life experiences. You have no idea whether I have ever felt this way or not.

Oh, yeah, one other thing. How do you know I don't feel that way right now? Huh? How? You don't, so don't lecture me. I DO feel the same way as these other girls. I would LOVE to have more children. I would love to have 6 or 8, but I CAN'T. It is no longer possible for me because of my cancer and chemo condition. Don't you think that is more painful than knowing one day I could have one but I am not "ready" now. Yes, it is much more painful knowing every day that I will NEVER have another child to hold and cuddle and love and raise.

So, since I CAN'T have children, I spend my time volunteering at local hospitals in the nurseries of premature babies who need a little extra love and affection. At least that helps me through my pain for a short while.

exactly! we get each other. I always thought of being a nurse for babies but then seeing other people have babies, every day of my life and knowing it's not me. That will hurt me a lot.

See, Mocha, you will be able to have one someday. I CAN'T have any anymore. So this is how I handle the pain of knowing I will never have another one. I volunteer. It takes the pain away for a little bit anyway.

J_9 : I am sorry about your situation, it must be hard, you must be really proud of your children. But your lucky though you have got a child, 4 in fact, many of my family can't have children and that worries me too (it maybe hereditary). I just know that in my experience being around children makes no difference and if I was to find out that like many of my family I couldn't have children I would find it very painful looking after children and knowing I would never have my own.

exactly! we get each other. I always thought of being a nurse for babies but then seeing other people have babies, every day of my life and knowing it's not me. That will hurt me a lot.

It does hurt. Recently one of my friends have fallen pregnant, I am delighted for her but also a little jealous. Don't get me wrong I’m not ready for a child but the feelings still stand. I wish there was a cure it a bottle!

Recently one of my friends have fallen pregnant, I am delighted for her but also a little jealous.


Same here. I have 3 friends that just had a baby. 1 in may, 1 in June and one just a few weeks ago. And possibly 2 others are pregnant. Also, my brother just had a baby. She's 1 month and a half. I see all these people have babies lately and because of my period problems I feel like I can't have kids. I probably could someday but not the way I am right now. Plus I want to wait a few years. I just find it hard to cope with how I'm feeling. I've even started making baby blankets lately. I gave some to my niece but I kept a few for myself you know. Even at christmas I bought a baby outfit for my niece and I wanted to keep it for my future baby but I thought that would be a little too crazy and did in fact give it to my niece like I planned in the first place.

OK seroiusly, you NEED to stop lashing out at everyone who doesn't sit here and "poor baby" you and give you an instant pill to cure it. Everyone who has posted, has tried to help you. This isn't just a medical advice site, it is an ADVICE site all around. If you don't want the advice, don't take it. End of story. But Don't lash out at the people who care enough to reply and help you, like J9. You don't know how she feels, you don't know her expereinces. It is so easy to sit back and judge, when you haven't been there yourself. Well, most of the people have already been where you are. You AREN'T the only ones who feel like this. I wanted a baby since I was 10 years old. I wanted it so badly, there were times I felt I would do anything to have one. BUT I didn't. I knew I wasn't ready (I know I know, you keep telling us you know you aren't too. I'm not talking about that) Instead, I took a step back, and looked at my feelings, and why I felt the need for a baby so strongly.there were things that happened to me in my past that cause me deep pain, and a deep feeling of unworthiness. I felt, that should I have a baby, I would be able to give the child the things that I didn't feel myself. Make that child feel like the most wonderful blessed person in the world, with the highest respect for themselves. And in return, I would have the love that I so longed for. I thought about that and I realized that a child wouldn't give me what I needed. What I needed was only something I could give myself. To give that child such a duty when first ocming into life, would be cruel. It didn't stop my hunger for a child, it didn't stop me from crying every night for want of one. But you know what? It gave me purpose. It helped me fight to make myself a better person, I was a very responsible kid for my age. I used my time taking care of children in every way that I could. Baby sitting, school, offering my time. I sucked it up, and did what I could with life. I didn't sit there and feel sorry for myself anymore. I made the best of what time I had, until I could have a kid. And finally I met a wonderful man, we fell in love, and I knew that it was finally my turn. And let me tell you, just because you have a child, doesn't mean you ever get rid of that feeling of wanting more. That never goes away. When you are done having kids, your kids have kids, and you settle for being a grandparent. You just CHANGE your perspective. And take enjoyment in different ways. Perhaps you are spending too much time around kids, and its just fueling your hunger. I don't know. All I know, is you need to suck it up, and MAKE it better. NO ONE can make it better for you, ESPECIALLY if you are determined to not allow it. (as you have already proved on this site) This is something you need to look at for yourself. You need to sit down and figure out WHAT it is that makes you so hungry for that baby. Then you need to find ways to make it work, until you can have one. There is no use sitting around and moping about not having a kid of your own, and trying to make other hurt ebcause they already have kids, and couldn't possibly know what you are talking about. That is such a selfish attitude. If it's a pity club you want, go start one. Otherwise, make your life good, and stop moping. Think about the other good things in life, like a man. When you finally find a guy that you want to be with forever, he is just going to feel like a piece of meat needed to have what you really want. And if you can't ever have kids? There is adoption. You know how many kids are out there that crave parents? That wonder if they will ever have the opportunity to have a REAL family? But don't even consider it, if you will just make those kids feel less loved, because they aren't you :Real: kids. I am sure you will have plenty of bitter things to say back to me about this, so I'll sign off so you have time to write back.

Wow Buggage, I think you said what needed to be heard!!

How dare they lash out at me when I gave advice that was asked for. I gave the advice that works for me and others I know. Oh yeah, I know:


J_9 : I am sorry about your situation, it must be hard

She isn't sorry.


J_9 : But your lucky though you have got a child, 4 in fact, many of my family can't have children

Did she even wonder whether getting pregnant was hard for me? No she just assumed that it was easy.

They come here to get advice and then think that they can just judge people because the advice they were givenwas not the advice they want to hear.

I am sorry that citygirl did not like the advice I gave, but who is she to know me, or my pain!?

Apparently she is young. With age comes wisdom. The wisdom to answer in an objective manner. She will learn that if she is here long enough.

I hope they are willing to gain that wisdom and maturity.. if not, its going to be a long, rough life.

Ok, first off. I just wanted to know how I can deal with wanting a child so badly when I know I don't want to have one for another few years. I didn't ask for someone to tell me I wansn't ready to be a parent or to know how hard or easy it was for you and I definitely didn't ask for your pitty. I just wanted to know how to deal with it.

I gave my suggestions. It was not necessarily you who we were talking about.

It was citygirl who was so quick to judge and lash out at people. Not you.

I gave my suggestions, because this is how I deal with it. You see, even though I am 42 and have had 4 children, I still feel the same way you do. I have never grown out of it.

So, understand it was citygirl who was being hateful, not you.

Ok. Just clearing that up that's all.

I do thank you for your advice and any other person's advice for that matter.

Mocha, there are other ways of clearing things up than using an accusing attitude, which you did.

See, this is why people take offense. It is the way things are worded. Since we cannot make eye contact, and we can't read body language, we have to be careful in the way we word things.

ACTUALLY you DID ask how hard or easy it was, as you were asking if anyone else had ever felt the same way that you were feeling. People have given you their opinions, people have told you how we have felt the SAME way, and HOW WE DEALT with it. Instead of taking what advice was given, whether you wanted it or not, this whole thing has been turned into a huge discussion, and argument.as far as I am concerned, none of the answers are appreciated anyway. This is the last time I am posting on this particular posting, as it has gotten far too out of preportion, and far too personal to many people.

I did read the advice and have taken it into consideration but what works for you might not work for me. That is why I'm open to everyone's suggestion. Who said I have to agree with everything everyone sais. I am just saying my opinion. If you think I don't appreciate it then you shouldn't have come here because you got it all wrong.

I'm in a really weird spot as far as having kids goes, so I'm not going waste a bijillion spaces with my background on this.

You want something that works, if only for a little while? Go hang out at Walmart on a Saturday afternoon. Go to a McDonald's with a play area. Go to Chuck E. Cheese when you KNOW there's going to be a birthday party. Go to a park with a whole bunch of kids in it when you have a headache or have cramps. Babysit when you DON'T feel like babysitting, or when you have plans already and someone else needs a sitter (I mean, cancel your plans to hang around with kids). Go to the grocery store on a Saturday morning. Deliberately sit at a table in a restaurant where there are kids at the next table. Volunteer at a youth center during flu season.

I promise you, spending time around other people's "brats" will cure you, if only for a little while. And don't believe that YOUR kids would act any better... kids are kids. They ALL behave badly in public at the least convenient time for the parents at least once.

That's worked for me for over 13 years.

Thanks. It's a good idea. It should work.

Wow Buggage, I think you said what needed to be heard!!!

How dare they lash out at me when I gave advice that was asked for. I gave the advice that works for me and others I know. Oh yeah, I know:



She isn't sorry.



Did she even wonder whether getting pregnant was hard for me? No she just assumed that it was easy.

They come here to get advice and then think that they can just judge people because the advice they were givenwas not the advice they want to hear.

I am sorry that citygirl did not like the advice I gave, but who is she to know me, or my pain!!!!!????

Apparently she is young. With age comes wisdom. The wisdom to answer in an objective manner. She will learn that if she is here long enough.

I apologized if I hurt you and apologizing again, I never assumed it was easy for you to conceive, I was simple say how lucky you are to now have 4 children. I have never been hateful towards you, I was simply upset like I sure you are. So please accept my apology. I'm sorry. But there is no need for you to go round attacking me that’s just hurtful and you’re not even sorry.
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citygirl00

mocha81, I happened upon this by accident seeing as I was doing a Google search with the same question as yours. I am 17 and pregnancy and adoption have been my obsessions for the last 4 years. Let me tell you my story first, maybe it will help.

Like I said I'm 17, but I'm also in my 2nd year of University studies. I have been rushing through my entire life trying to get to a point where I will be stable enough to have kids. I knew, at 13, that if I wanted to have kids young I'd need a great job with great health insurance, a house, and the ability to be able to support my kids in every way. I rushed through high school and set myself up on a road where I am going to be 19 with a bachelor's of nursing and making enough money, with good enough benefits, to purchase a home and be financially well off. But you know what?

I have no friends. I have no social life. Period. I used to, but I gave it up when I decided I was going to rush through my life in order to be able to start a family. I don't even have kids yet, and I have already given up some of the most precious years of my life. I haven't dated anybody seriously, I've never even had my first kiss - and I'm a sophomore at a University! Only now am I starting to realize how sad my situation is.

The advice I'm about to give is the same advice I know I should be taking...

You're 18 and you don't have any responsibilities other than for your own well being. Have fun while you still can!! Don't let your obsession with being pregnant stop you from leading a normal teenaged life. I hope your not in the position I am, lost in an adult world and totally miserable. I've let my obsession go way too far and have sacrified being a teenager, but I'm going to try and put a stop to it, and try and have some fun. Your youth ends the day you get pregnant, and you can never get it back. Would you really want to give it up? For me, I know I don't... I want to be able to date and party and have fun before it's too late.

I know you just wanted help with dealing with it all but I thought my story might help. We're free to worry about only ourselves - we should enjoy it. I do want to say, however, that I have nothing but respect for young mothers and that you should never make a decision based on what society says is right or wrong. Just think about how free you are right now, free to take care of yourself and do whatever you want, and how quickly that would be gone if you were to get pregnant... I hope that helps.

I know it's hard. It's hard for me too. But you're not alone with this... and I'm so glad to know I'm not either.

I apologized if I hurt you and apologizing again, I never assumed it was easy for you to conceive, I was simple say how lucky you are to now have 4 children. I have never been hateful towards you, I was simply upset like I sure you are. So please accept my apology. I'm sorry. But there is no need for you to go round attacking me that’s just hurtful and you’re not even sorry.
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citygirl00

Citygirl,

How do you know I am not sorry? Do you know that I am not sorry in the same way that you knew

you can't have any idea what it's like to be this broody?

What makes you think you can read my mind?

So it is time to stop the attacking and thread hijacking and get back to the original post.

I have no friends. I have no social life. Period. I used to, but I gave it up when I decided I was going to rush through my life in order to be able to start a family. I don't even have kids yet, and I have already given up some of the most precious years of my life. I haven't dated anybody seriously, I've never even had my first kiss - and I'm a sophomore at a University! Only now am I starting to realize how sad my situation is.


I seem to find myself in the same situation but in the past few weeks after posting this question everyone made me stop and think more and although the obsession of wanting to get pregnant will never go away until I have one and like J_9 said, that she has 4 kids and still wants more. I'd probably be like that too. I will be in college in the fall and hopefully that will keep my mind off getting pregnant and just enjoying life, which I haven't been lately.

Thanks for the feedback.

Well this may or may not help but wanting to be pregnant can lead to sudoieces. I nother words "imagined pregnancy". It is also known to be a psylogical problem. The disorder makes you go through all of the symptoms of being pregnant.

I have a nearly 10 month old. Until I have him, I too was "obsessed" with being pregnant, babies, etc. I really wanted one. Once I was married for a while, I got pregnant and had my precious baby. Wait. Just wait. I tell you what might help in the meantime, work at a daycare center! Babies 24/7!

Pregnancy only lasts about 9 months. Having a child lasts you the rest of your life

I can understand where you are coming from, it gets on your nerves sometimes that you are feeling this way, and sometimes it just excites you even more, in either case the feeling is there and the chances are is that it will always be there even after you have your first child that feeling will come back and you'll end up wanting more kids unless you are just absolutely exhuasted by the first child :)

As for solving the problem, you can always go out and adopt a pet instead and take care of it, get it from a rescue shelter, maybe take on the worst case of abuse and nuture it back to health as you save for the day that you decide to take on a child. You also don't necessarily have to have a partner for a child, they have sperm donors places, you'd just have to look around. Or even an adoption place? It would be a little tricky since you would be the sole and the only provider-- I'm not experienced in that area so I wouldn't say much in it, like everything just do lots of research before making the plans. Many people on here have the tendency to claim that one other is too young to have kids, but they are only doing it out of concern and there's nothing wrong with that, but quite honestly you and only you can be truthful to yourself to know when you can take on a baby. It isn't always about the money, the support of the child--- its emotional and mental and physcial thing as well and I guess if you live by the fact that no matter what-- things will always be all right again, you should be just fine.


If not a pet, do something that keeps you busy. Sometimes when one has too much time on their hands, they'll overthink on a subject and eventually resort to obbession. Just a thought there. That feeling probably won't go away, but you can reduce it at least.

I hope it helps a little!

T'care,
Kelly

To the original poster: I know EXACTLY how you feel. I feel the same way, and it's horrible to have to pretend, even to yourself, that you're pregnant to make you feel happy. I'm married, and we are trying, but I honestly thought I was the only one who went through this feeling of wanting a baby so badly you pretend to yourself you are, and you can't wait for the day you can announce to the world you're pregnant. I also know that, for me, no matter what advice I get, if it's not what I want to hear, I won't take it. If you're like that, then all you can do is wait and hope that the right man and the right time comes sooner rather than later. I wish you all the happiness in the world. X

Kitschxbang, just a piece of advice, when you reply to postings, make sure that you check the dates. The original posting was made back in January and the last posting in march.

Kitschxbang, just a piece of advice, when you reply to postings, make sure that you check the dates. the original posting was made back in January and the last posting in march.

Which is just fine, but it doesn't necessarily mean she won't read it. If I see something I relate to, I reply. I check responses to things I posted ages ago. Doesn't have to be a dead thread. It's not like I've wasted my time posting it (you read it). Thanks though :)

I will be 19 years old in 3 weeks and I've been obsessed with getting pregnant. I've been wanting a baby since I was 16. Sometimes I look at my stomach and pretend I'm pregnant. I put myself in some fantasy world. I'm just wondering if this has happened to any other person and how I can deal with this. I don't want to go out with someone just to get pregnant. I would never trick someone into getting pregnant. I know I'm still young and I should just wait till it comes along and I am. I just want advice on how I can deal with it until the right time comes for me.
I am going through the same thing Im 20 years old and me and my boyfriend have baan trying to conceive. Eiveryday I look in the mirror at my stomach. And every time I have a pain in I stomach, it makes me wonder if I am. I work at a daycare and soemtimes it makes me not want to have kids. That's my suggestion to you. Hope it helps

I have spent time as a co-op student in a daycare that was located at my high school, when I was in high school. (I graduated). I have 3 nephews and a niece, I have babysitted a lot. I have no problem taking care of a child. so that isn't an issue. My original question wasn't if I was ready or not ( like the most of you are answering). My question was , how can I get over wanting a baby so bad, without having one now. I know I want to have my career in which I'm going to college in the fall. after a few years I want one.. maybe around 22 or 23. I am 18, turning 19 in 3 weeks. I know I want to wait till then.

I feel the same way. (I searched this topic on google) I've wanted to get pregnant for the past 5-8 months. It drives me crazy. Some of my friends have been getting pregnant, and I cry every time. It's crazy, I collect baby clothes, I think about baby names all the time, I babysit for 5+ different families on a daily basis, I've taken everything into consideration. I can support a child. I have a boyfriend (fiance) We're getting married in August. So I am going to wait until I am married to have children. But I understand what you are going through. There isn't really a for-sure way to get over it. I've given up on getting over it. I just deal, and know that someday, not today, but someday I will have children, so it's OK. I guess the best thing I can do is quote the Bible in saying "Patience is a virture", and I guess that's all

OMG... it's so good to have someone else who has this problem. I'm 16 and currently going through the same thing!

I'm 18 and my son just turned a month old. It is hard and there are so many sleepless nights, sometimes I just have to cry, especially when I can't get him to stop crying. I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world, but it IS a huge responsibility... and I have to say I'm truly blessed to have my mom help me with so much, quite frankly if it wasn't for her id be out of luck, but I'm not telling you to take advantage of your parents, cause there isn't any guarantees that they'd be 100% supportive

And the whole feeling at the age of 16, I had it too... and well look where I am now

Yeah... I'm trying to hold off and be practical about it. Knowing that I can't support a kid at 16 given the fact that my parents probably wouldn't support me. So I'm just filling my time with babysitting and being around other peoples kids.

I am 18 Y/o. I have been living and raising myself since i was 14. When I was 2 y/o my dad left me I never saw him since. Because of that I was beaten by my mother since 2 y/o. My brother and I were beaten so bad to where we were blue and bloody. my mother when i was 4 had twins after she brought them home she would disapear for all hours, I had to raise them I fed them,Bathed them and put them to bed. I had always grew up raising my mothers children that were pratically my own as i got older the beatings and the boyfriends got worse.I was on constant alert, when I would get abused I would escape into my head where my dreams were taking off and I felt alive, Strong and safe, I would dream about how my life would be how my kids would always have bread on the table a roof over there heads, they would be safe and loved with everything i have till all i have learned would be given to them they would learn how to love till you can't love anymore, I never give up on love because one day it would come and usally it comes when you least expect it when you think its lost forever. you feel so cold and you always feel what you have believed in for so long is not going to show. You just have to have faith. I have wanted a baby so bad where i have cryed so hard i couldnt cry anymore somthing so precious that would never give up on me a responsiblility all my own where I can teach it dreams do come true keep having faith I have written all my unborn children letters about how much they mean to me and even though there not born yet they still are everything I have ever wanted and more I am so proud of them for holding on and for waiting for me to give them life, The dangers they may face and the ambitions that will overwhelm them. My unborn children are what keeps me alive today when all else fails. even though I want a baby so bad that it hurts I know that the life I can't give them now I know that the life I can give them later is so close. I work 2 jobs and I am a part time student all So that I can save money for my kids so I will not have to work when there born. , I attend church and have never done drugs I have ate as healthy as I can and I have not had any tattoo's or pierceings. Like I said I have been planning for my own children since I was four and raising twins brother and sister (one has autisum, one has cerebral palsy.) and my other brother. I know that one day I will be the greatest mother. I will love my kids no matter what there flaws are and I will teach them everything I know till the day I say my goodbyes!
P.S mothers will you please kiss and give ur kids bear huggss you have the greatest gifts on this earth I know now you may think there pains but be proud because they will one day be taking care of you and your grandchildren this world needs change and I'm going to lead as many people has i can!

Hello, you are not alone. I have also wanted to get pregnant for a while now and it has come to the point of obsession. I am madly in love with my fiancé and have wanted so badly to have children with him for over a year now. I am also 19, but instead of pretending to be pregnant I obsessively think that I am. It feels like my heart is being ripped in two every time I realize that I am not. I wouldn't say that most people our age want this like we do, but I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I go to a counselor every Monday at my college, and tell her anything that is bothering me. She is helpful with calming my eagerness. The main thing that I would recommend doing is staying busy most of your time. Don't just stay home by yourself, going out and doing anything will help keep your mind off it. As for a permanent fix, I haven't found one yet, but don't give up your will power and your reason. Those are the only things keeping you from being an unwed teen aged mother. I know that you will get to be a mother soon enough, don't worry about the time it may be, just know you will be a loving mother.
P. S. : I wish the best for you.

I understand how you feel and its reassuring knowing other people are in the same kind of situation. I'm 21, finished college and getting married to my BF of 5 years in a few months. However we are unable to have a child (all though we want one really bad) because of lack of jobs and money. We understand the sacrifices that go along with having a child, but believe the joy of having a baby is worth every moment. Neither of us have ever been interested in partying or going out excessively we would both rather be home taking care of a family.

I know how painful it is getting through everyday knowing I can't have a family right now, on top of other personal issues I find myself sinking into depression. I live in a small town and have little to no options for watching over other children or babies.

What I try to do is think about how I am making my future children's lives better by making my life better. Its hard some days but try your best to live each day to your best bettering your future for your children.