This is my story... I meet this guy when I used to work in the mall, he was a security guy in the store and I was folding clothes lol.. I didn't like him at all at the time. He kept calling and paging me when I wasn't busy, I wasn't as nice to him but I wasn't rude either.

One day when I got off work I went on my FB only to notice that I had a new message fro someone that I wasn't even friends with on there, it was jeff... I was surprised and I replied, it was a friendly conversation. Little did I know, we started talking everyday and he would message me back n fourth on FB so would I, even though I at the time had a on off boyfriend, he had a girlfriend too.. but we were just friends so it was OK.

Long story short I broke up with my boyfriend and he broke up with his girlfriend the same day hmmm what a coincidence, it was weird, but we started hanging out until he finally kissed me lol we were so happy, he would text and talk to me everyday when he'd wake up until he went to sleep, it was so nice to know there was someone there. He would come out of work on his lunch break to see me and put up with all of my crap, he said he loved me just after two months... he did everything possible to prove his love and I was the happiest girl ever.

Until one day we started getting into little fights things started changing... he wouldn't text as much because he claimed that he did that in the beginning just to get me, but now he knew he had me so he didn't have to try so hard. It finally got to the point where it was just me texting him, that would never happen before. One night I went over his house and things got out of hand, and I lost my virginity to him, he knew that this was very important to me because I was waiting for that very special guy to do it with, he was my everything.. that night I drove back home and he text me saying how great it was n how happy he was.

The next day we talked in the am and everything was just perfect, until I went and kind of stalked his ex gfs FB and it said in a relationship with jeff... and I text him saying u can go **** yourself... then he text me over 10x asking what was going on and begging me to answer him, but I ignored until later that night.then I finally replied n told him... he said it was a glitch which I didn't believe at 1st but then realized how dumb FB can be and one day it would be on the ex gfs and the next day it didn't show at all.. weird.

he meet me and said we can't so this anymore because it's a whole lot more drama then he ever thought it would be, I cried and apologized for overreacting,( I trusted him) n felt so dumb for the way I reacted... he said we have to take a break n see what happens.. it took him three days and he text me just a hey, I was so happy n I replied so we talked the whole day. A few days later we text again n I finally asked him if there was any chance that we can work things out after he's done with his busy schedule, he said yeah there is as soon as I'm done with these things.he was pretty nice.. even said he misses me.

Long story short one day I text him and he said we can't be together blah blah and then I started begging him to not let it go and try one more time but no way did he change his mind n told me to leave him alone, so I said have a great life. Then a week and some days passed and I was going crazy thinking about him so I text n he was pretty nice n said we can be friends but still flirty, a day later he text saying well never be together this is how it is, and told me to never talk to him again or he'd get a rest order... *** then he said bye we can't even be friends and he doesn't give a f about us or anything.. he wouldn't meet for closure either.. bipolarrrr?

I... begged and begged but still no. I'm losing my mind, I cry at work, at school, and everywhere else (while eating, showering ect) I just want to crawl on the ground and die. I love him so much I can't even explain it I don't know what to think.. he said never contact me again.. that means well never talk forever, and its just sad. Everyone says the NC rule will work but I'm so crushed he turned out to be way diff than I thought, that I don't think that will work.. what should I do? Please help me... and don't say get over him because I cannot, as much as id love to, no one else could compare and I don't care about other guys :(
Please help me, will he ever come back? Maybe miss me


Lots of editing for clarity and save on aspirins/T

Lol sorry I was trying to write it from my phone.
Im devastated I just want to goget into a car accident and die :( I've never feelt like this about anyone, I'm losing my mind

You will eventually be okay, if you stay well out of his life. That first break up from someone you liked so much you gave your virginity to is really tough on us, but you will recover if you do the NC thing.

All break ups suck to be honest, whether it's the first or the last one.

I know your hurting, but its time to move on. Its also time to STOP begging this guy, for what --love, friendship,to just be with you--come on you have given him enough! NO MORE, its time to get your PRIDE back.

It will take time, but mourn and then get ON with your life, we can't change or go back, but we can learn from our mistakes and MOVE ON with our head held HIGH!

Get out with friends, DO ANYTHING that keeps you occupied other then being on computer checking on what is going with him on Facebook or email!!

If you see him, act casual don't be overly friendly let him know you have moved on and are very thankful to have found out what a loser he really is.

I try to go out and clear my mind as much as I can and it works for the moment, but the I get home and think of all the great memories we've had-makes me so sad I cry myself to sleep :(
Wish hed come back :'(

Listen to everyone when they say NO CONTACT! It is hard at first when because you have all of these emotions and thoughts but it WILL get better!

From personal experience, I was going crazy when my girlfriend of almost 7 yrs cheated on me. I wanted to do everything to get her back, and I broke the NC RULE! Biggest mistake ever!

After I listened to the wise people here, and did NC everything was looking up. It has been over a year since and life is a lot better! If you have a good circle of friends, talk to them, go out and live life! It will get better! I promise... =)

SO NC! That includes deleting all emails, numbers, and FB connections!

My boyfriend and I broke up last week, it was a very bad break up and things just ended horribly, I never thought it would go down that way and we aren't speaking to eachothwr... what should I do to get him back nc? Do guys tend to miss their ex when they see them after a while?. ive heard that after a while when they think we've moved on, they come back, is that true?

Go NC, and heal is the right thing to do, so you can be happy whether he comes back or not. You don't get someone back through tricks and traps, or being desperate. They have to want to come back, so do NC, for your sanity, and health.

Im really trying to, but everyday it just gets worse.. I thought it was supposed to be the other way around :(... I just wonder if we will ever talk again.. how could he just switch his feelings off or I was a big pqrt of his life too :(

Really sori about what happened. But sometimes things just don't work out, to me this was a very little misunderstanding, I have had worse and we always worked things out, but if he could bring himself to just let it go and move on then he wasn't meant for girl. And yes try as much as possible not to contact him ATALL,don't demean yourself bu begging him, please , if u are able , go on a trip with your friends:) u will be fine, he is not worth it,

If you contact him it will ONLY get worst. Trust me. I felt exactly like you did, "how can someone you care so much for throw it all away..." I would even say that I was super desperate, BUT you HAVE to do no contact of any sort for yourself. Time will help you heal. Get your friends to help you out, and one more word of advice, the last thing you want to do is get into another relationship. Take this time to have fun with your friends and set goals for yourself.

"It must rain before there is a rainbow!" It is raining right now but once you get through the NC phase, you will see the bright sky and beautiful rainbow.

NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT.

I can't contact him, because things just ended pretty badly.. and I got all the blame, so beaides feeling crappy about the break up I have to deal with all the blame I feel horrible. I know he atill cares someqhat because you can't just shut feelings off in a matter of a week unless your a robot I don't know. Idk if the nc will maybe bring him back. Hes in the navy and has a lot of training that's why he thought he didn't have tine to give to me.. but then I begged and made it worse :(

Idk if the nc will maybe bring him back.

NC is for you to heal, and move on. No matter what he does, or doesn't do.

But I can't seem to live without him :( I'm lit losing my mind its been over a month since I've seen him and I still cry myself to sleep and I'm misrable I can't go on any longer, I need to do smth before I go psycho :(

You can learn to live without him, given time, but for now you are emotional, and MOURNING your loss. Maybe a shoulder to cry on, and vent would help, but sooner or later, you will get tired of the crying, and misery and, want to have fun again, and get busy explore what you have missed by being so absorbed by him, and the thoughts of him.

For some it happens sooner than a month, others need more time. Take all the time you need, and don't feel so bad about it. Getting dump sucks big time, and can be a traumatic, life changing event, and for sure healing ain't easy, and No Contact is one of the hardest thing we do in life.

I know exactly how you feel.. it amazes me sometimes how cold people can be. I know its hard to do but TRY not to think about it. Set goals with things that can keep you busy!

I know you feel like you should take the blame but DO NOT! I felt the same way when my ex-gf cheated on me. Thinking it was my fault. But as time goes on you will feel better.

Think of it this way, you want him to want you.. You want that right? Then the best way is to heal yourself and let everything take its course. If the time comes that he wants you back, YOU will make the decision not him.

GET OUT THERE WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY.