My best friend and I have been best friends for about eight years, since first grade, now we are both fourteen. A couple nights ago at my birthday party, she was acting kind of weird. Both of us (I think, or at least for sure me) believe in being individuals and not fitting in just to fit in. Doing things because they make you happy, etc. That has always been my and her "agenda"---if you will. But at my party she was being kind of strange, different. I had invited five friends and out of them she was really the one who had known me the longest and best. The others were just good friends from my current school and a few that she and I knew from our old school(she and I go to different schools). However, it is not possible that she was uncomfortable because I picked my guests very carefully and she knew most quite well.My best friend was acting perverted and insensitive in front of them---not at ALL her usual self. She and I also look foreword to giving gifts to each other because they are usually full of inside jokes or at least something we know the other has been wanting or would love. It may sound very materialistic, but her present to me sucked. It was not at all something I would like or special in any way. For her birthday it took me a long time to figure out what to get her because I wanted to make it really special and unique. Between that and the perverted, obnoxious jokes I really was confused as to why she was doing that. I saw her last week and she was her usual, wonderful self. Why was she acting so weird at my party??

Why don't you just ask her?

Also, you say she doesn't go to the same school as you? She could have a best friend over there too... Perhaps she doesn't know how to be a best friend to two separate people (but I'm just guessing because I don't know her... ).

Maybe her gift sucked because she didn't have the time to spend on it or the cashola.. (Again another guess... )

You know your best bet would be to ask her what was up at your b'day. If you're such good friends you should be able to ask. Take the risk. Isn't your friendship worth it. Xo

Try talking to your friend and expressing your feelings. Friends for that amount of time should be able to work something like this out. You sound like one very mature person. You took into consideration your friends comfort for your birthday party. I know you can find a way word your approach on the subject and work it out.