njgrlinfl
Dec 19, 2010, 08:14 PM
I have been dating this amazing guy for a few months. He came at me at full speed and told me everything I wanted to hear and meant it. I am a grown woman and have not felt this way for a long time for a man, especially after divorcing my husband .
He introduced me to all his friends who really liked me and let me know how they have never seen him this way with another woman. My friends also met him as well as his friends and all loved the chemistry between us and couldn't believe how we clicked. He was calling me and texting me regularly throughout the day and we were a pair.
He had been having problems in his business and had been quite stressed regarding the lack of business and the amount of bills he had to pay. Slowly, he started to withdraw from me and our relatioship. This worried me and I became more clingy. I started to have a lot of get togethers with our friends and "made" him come along. He was getting more depressed everyday and was withdrawing more and more. I didn't know what happened or what I did. Then, he started to tell me that I don't know him, he has demons from the past that hold him back from going forward, that he gets himself on lockdown and stays away from everyone, and lastly, made a fly by comment about someone he knew who was bi polar and watched my reaction. I didn't understand. But, he had been drinking heavily to medicate himself on a regular basis. Then, all of a sudden, he disappears. Finally when I got in touch with him, he wouldn't see me or answer my calls or texts. I started my own research about bi polar and saw many things similar. Now, I saw him and he is quite agitated, and I presume he is in a manic stage. He was finding faults with me and trying to start a fight. I was not going to fuel him so I was very controlled and nice. When I was leaving, he hugged me and told me to give it time, take it easy, and he's sorry but he's going through a lot. I mentiond about people taking meds when they are "depressed," and he was insulted and asked me "if he is crazy " that I think he needs meds. He knows that I know its more than depression. He also knows that I know its bi polar. But, he is ashamed. He is 46. What am I going to do? I care for him very much, but I have kids. We are suppose to go on a cruise in 3 weeks. What is going on in his mind? What is he thinking? Why is he staying away and not calling? Why can he talk to his friends and not me? Please help me.
He introduced me to all his friends who really liked me and let me know how they have never seen him this way with another woman. My friends also met him as well as his friends and all loved the chemistry between us and couldn't believe how we clicked. He was calling me and texting me regularly throughout the day and we were a pair.
He had been having problems in his business and had been quite stressed regarding the lack of business and the amount of bills he had to pay. Slowly, he started to withdraw from me and our relatioship. This worried me and I became more clingy. I started to have a lot of get togethers with our friends and "made" him come along. He was getting more depressed everyday and was withdrawing more and more. I didn't know what happened or what I did. Then, he started to tell me that I don't know him, he has demons from the past that hold him back from going forward, that he gets himself on lockdown and stays away from everyone, and lastly, made a fly by comment about someone he knew who was bi polar and watched my reaction. I didn't understand. But, he had been drinking heavily to medicate himself on a regular basis. Then, all of a sudden, he disappears. Finally when I got in touch with him, he wouldn't see me or answer my calls or texts. I started my own research about bi polar and saw many things similar. Now, I saw him and he is quite agitated, and I presume he is in a manic stage. He was finding faults with me and trying to start a fight. I was not going to fuel him so I was very controlled and nice. When I was leaving, he hugged me and told me to give it time, take it easy, and he's sorry but he's going through a lot. I mentiond about people taking meds when they are "depressed," and he was insulted and asked me "if he is crazy " that I think he needs meds. He knows that I know its more than depression. He also knows that I know its bi polar. But, he is ashamed. He is 46. What am I going to do? I care for him very much, but I have kids. We are suppose to go on a cruise in 3 weeks. What is going on in his mind? What is he thinking? Why is he staying away and not calling? Why can he talk to his friends and not me? Please help me.