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Adam96
Dec 14, 2010, 04:17 PM
Hello people I'm really lost and need some help so I thought id ask here.
Ok well I'm a 15 year old guy and I lvie in australia.
I started seeing this girl about 4 months ago. I asked her out on a date to see her and it was amazing. Everything went so well.
It was very clear that we both loved each other.We started datingg I used to see her once a week and I was so happy with that.We never use to argue or fight. We used to get along so well with each other. We used to tell each other I love you and I mis you everyday and compliment each othwer a lot. We used to rush back from school not caring about anything but talking to each other. We used to stay up until 5 in the morning talking. And used to be so happy. Her friends and my friends were so happy for us. We were like the perfect couple.
We hit the 3months mark. Things began to go rockyy. We started to argue nearly everyday. Guys would flirt with her on the internet and Facebook. And I would see this, and it would kill me when I saw them. She told them she loved me and coudltn lvie without me.
One night she uploaded new photos of her doing webcam with another guy, She todl them her was her friend. He was only her friend. But if your in a relationship do you do these kind of things ?I don't think so. I can't help myself but get hurt.
I get jelous because I love her and want her to myself. I treat her like a princess and do everythign ic an for her. I bought her a 200$ gift for her birthday engraved our date on it and, saying I love you.
What more do I do? I've had so many sleepless nights.
I try to tell her how I feel about her. But she gets angry straight away and we don't talk. Im always the one to say sorry first just to end the argument so I don't lose her.
A few weeks after our 3 months, we ahd a big fight. And she told me it was over. She said her friends ggave her a talk. And she felt bad because of our difference in religion. So we broke up. I was heart broken. I've never felt this way over anygirl in my life.
We used to trust each other with everything. She never used to do this with guys, or talk on the phone with othwer guys, flirt taking pics and all. And even private inbox with them. We used to trust each other with our passwords, I still do I give her mine. And once in a while I check hers to find out the pasword has been changed. Its not the fact I want to see what she's doing, it's the fact of her trusting me and her not having to worry if she isn't doing anything wrong.
So we broke up , I still lloved her. We kept talking as friends.About a week ago we got back together.we still argue at times.
I haven't seen her for about a month now. She tells me its very hard to see each other because of family and all. Is our relationship fading because were not seeing each other? Or what ? I'm always the one that ends our argument and says sorry.. if my friends saw me they would seriously slap me. And say bro you're a guy you can find another girl wake the f*** up!
Why do I feel hurt and cut. When I see her talking to other guyss. :(
Like it kills.
I ask her baby how come we don't do this anymore. How come were not as clsoee? She replies in an angry manner and says gahh what do uw ant me to doo , find another girl if your not happy ?
When she said that I was shocked and hurt so bad.
I know ic an find another girl but I don't want anyoen else. I want her.
If I get so hurt inside when I see her talking to guys, Imagine how il feel when I see her happy in aanother relationship ?
Please help me guyss. Pleasee I've been depressed for a long time now.
What can I do help ?>

Vando
Dec 26, 2010, 05:53 PM
I went through the same problem when I was your age. I did everything for this girl that I loved and it was perfect. We dated for 7 months and I was already thinking about marriage and kids. And like you I would be furious when I found out that guys would hit on her. But that's where I messed up. I guess she got scared and left me. She ended up talking to other guys and was in 2 relationships. My friends kept telling me to move on but, like you, I only wanted her. Five years passed and she ended up with a kid. Now she finally realizes how much of a good guy I was to and now she wants me back. I know you think she's the only girl in the world for you but trust me there's always someone better than the one you had before. If it was meant to be then work on your trust issues. It may seem hard at first but act like you don't care about guys hitting on her, but it reality you do. Say to yourself "that she's with me". She probably likes the attention so let her get it. Just act like it doesn't bother you and she'll realize. If you are broken up now then you should start seeing other girls and trust me she will notice and get jealous. She might not show it but it will get to her.

gino88
Jan 6, 2011, 06:49 PM
I agree with vando, yes you were probably the perfect couple and couldn't get enough of each other but because your so young attention spans can fade and its not a good thing to admit but girls crave a little outside attention to know they've still got it.. its sill but it happens.
Your very young so I recommend seeing more of your friends and maybe talking to some girls yourself, even in a friendly manner to make you feel good about yourself because if you show her that your life does not revolve around her it will annoy and she will miss the constant attention from you. Be less available! If your always there swooning over her how can she miss you? Advice from girl not so much older than you :) (keep in mind it's just a suggestion)

Adam96
May 20, 2011, 10:36 PM
Still to now guys..
If I don't speak to her she will be like oh so your not going to talk to me or oh so I'm always the one that has to go up to you first etc...
After I've told her off for something she's done wrong she's makes me feel as if I'm the wrong one.. she sure as hell does a good job man..
When I try to end it she always makes me feel so bad !
As times past I want her but I don't want her at the same time..
But I don't want to hurt her..

amicon
May 21, 2011, 01:30 AM
You're clearly not happy-so you're hurting yourself in order to not hurt her.

If you want to end -you should.

Adam96
May 22, 2011, 12:34 AM
She ended it last night.. Im not as hurt as I would have been if it happened before, but everyone says you need to talk to other girls bla bla, I'm so used to just talking to her that I honestly, like don't want and can't be bothered to.. :/

emobunny
Jun 1, 2011, 03:58 PM
Wow I feel so sorry for you hun you need a girl to love you even if it hurts