I was at an art opening and this man just came up to me and went on and on about how we must know each other. He is a director, producer, writer ( he actually is) and I would be perfect in one of his films. I gave him my number. We met and at the end of the evening, he gave me an overly enthusiastic kiss. Ok, it was over the top but so what. We texted back and forth all the time and then went out again. I asked him if he was married or had a girlfriend. I just assumed that he did not given his attention towards me. I get a mix of super sweet, honest and nice guy mixed in with a bunch of lines. Winds up that this guy is married. He gave me a song and dance about how they were just friends, etc. She doesn't understand him. So, I started spending time with him. We have great chemistry.

Well, it didn't bother me until I took him to a birthday party with all of my best friends and he just lied to my best friend about our "friendship" without blinking an eye. It was then that I realized that he is just full of crap. I called it off the next day. I am not a liar and he was making me one. He sent me five mini-novella texts and asked why I was being so mean. I told him that I was not being mean and he knew it. The thing is, I know we do actually have a really good connection. I told him not to call me and I deleted all his information. I am sure he will contact me again. I am not sure how to handle this situation. Part of me wants to believe him and part of me wants to just be done. If a guy like that does leave his unhappy situation and comes back, will they just do it to me. Is it all a bunch of lines?

Why you continue seeing him after he told you he was finally married, I don't care if she doesn't understand him or not. I would have moved on right then, He is a MARRIED man period, if he isn't understood maybe he should step up and be a man and get a divorce, Im sure the judge would understand him!!

Be thankful your not stuck with someone like this as a husband or even a mere boyfriend, if he will cheat once he will cheat EACH AND EVERY Every time! I would mark this as a learning experience and move on with my life and remember if something seems to good to be true, there is a good chance its Isn't TRUE!

I wish you luck, there is a real man out there who will treat you with respect you deserve!

This man could possibly be a sociopath, he sounds like a manipulative and pathological liar who would do or say whatever it takes to keep up appearances or get what he wants. Though he doesn't seem exceptionally sociopathic, he is married. A married man may do this if their marriage is emotionally unsatisfactory, but they stay because of the investments they've put into the relationship, such as finances and such. He may stray if he finds an appealing alternative, you, who provides greater satisfaction, but stays with his wife because too much could be lost by pursuing a divorce. Then there are those who just can't keep it in their pants. You should continue staying away from this guy. A connection is meaningless if he's a married liar.

He's a proven liar and cheater.

Here's a question for you... why do single women insist on dating married men?

I don't think it's fair that you would generalize all married men, just like I don't like generalizing all single women.

Now that you know the truth about him, leave him be and move on with your life.

I have to agree - not all married men cheat. I would like to think that the majority are faithful.

You just need to stop communicating with him altogether, even if you have to change your phone number.

You have to accept responsibility as well for even seeing a married man. If women wouldn't date married men, then the whole scenario would collapse and adultery wouldn't exist.

Mimi, this may sound harsh, but you continued to date him after you knew he was married. That it didn't bother you until you were the one being denied says a lot about your perception of the world.

Either you are very young and very naïve or very self-centered.

Consider this a life lesson about finding out more about a person before you get involved (I don't think you would have been as quick to believe him if there wasn't some ground work already laid.) You are now ready for the next lesson-No Contact. You have already started it by deleting his contact information. If he does contact you again, do not answer if you recognize the number, hang-up when you know it is him, delete/ignore messages, put emails in the spam folder, etc. You do not owe it to him to be polite. You do owe it to yourself not to make the same mistake again.

If he did leave his wife and become involved with you, chances are very good he would cheat on you. Why wouldn't he? He would still be the same man who is looking for a younger playmate. You would be just another playmate who didn't stay young. However, he more than likely would not leave his wife and you are probably just one in a very long line.

Learn from this and move on.

I don't think she meant to generalize, obviously all married men are not cheaters. It sounded like she wanted to know why they do it when they do it.

All of you guys give her a break! At least she called it off before too much time was invested. Mistakes... hmm all of you have made them, that I am sure! I know several women who have and are stuck in those married relationships and it is not all what it's cracked up to be. One is on Zoloft,and she has been committed. Every time she tries to break away, here his behind come. So now 26years has past... and yes she is stuck with it. What's sad is that the wife knows and doesn't care. Who should we feel sorry for, the mistress or the woman who stays with a cheating husband? My friend-girl... stays with her guy and she knows he cheats... uggg so sad! Just because they don't want to be alone? Bottom line is this, Girl I am proud of you! No contact is the best policy. My own father has been married three times, and have cheated on them all... hell my mother couldn't stop him so she joined him. The more I live, the more I see people NOT marrying for love, but for companionship and financial security! Good luck and may God Bless you and keep you!

Why do people cheat? Did anyone ever thing that maybe his wife cheated on him, or perhaps she has neglected him in the bedroom? I don't think anyone should be the fall guy but there are several reasons people cheat.

I have been the other woman or almost 10 years. When I met him, we were just friends but the attraction quickly increased. He was attractive, smart, articulates well, and made me feel like a million dollars in and out of the bedroom. Even to this day! It is not all about the material things or what he can do for me. At first he did not tell me he was in a committed relationship however before we had any kinds of sexual relations, he laid it all on the line. It was my choice to stay in it. He initially wanted to sabotage his relationship and felt forced into it for personal reasons but since she was good to him, he was good to her. They sleep in different rooms/beds and ultimately it works for the both of them. She is happy with saying she is married but does not want to do "wifey" duties. She knows he is cheating but maybe she just don’t care as long as he brings the paycheck home and treats her like a human being, perhaps that’s all she wants. I made him happy by fulfilling him too.

I started listening to my friends and family telling me how I have wasted my life and listened to all the negative things that came along the path. They never encouraged me by saying, when times were tough for me, he provided. When my kids needed projects done, he was there. When my family and friends needed any kind of assistance, he was there. The list goes on and on and on. To make a long story short, I started dating single men. These men did not have time for me, they treated me like a cheap trick in the streets, they disrespected me and could not compare to my married boyfriend. My married boyfriend is around me approximately 5 - 6 days a week. He is with me on holidays and we take at least 2 trips a year... not to mention, weekend get always.

When he found out about me cheating on him, he hurt him to his soul. He put his all in our relationship and neglected his at home. He felt like these guys could not compare to how he treated and loved me. I feel foolish because I had a good thing. Things are going downhill because the trust his gone. I did not provide him the same truth about me dating as he did about him being married.
I say all this to say, no one should judge her whether she knew or not. There is no perfect person out there. We all do wrong and then justify it the way we want. Who cares.. If he is satisfying her and makes her feel good, then why not. Most of these married men treat the other woman better than their own. Why not enjoy that? He had to lie to your friends because he had to protect himself and also he probably did not know what she told her friends about their relationship. The only thing is that if you know you cannot handle a relationship like that, I commend you for getting out of it as soon as you did. You within yourself should know whether you are capable in dealing with the dating a married man. I would have never thought in a million years I would have falling in love with a married man.

I know this may rub a lot of you the wrong way but….. you are probably unhappily married or divorced. You need to look in the mirror and think about all the ways you neglect your man. One thing I do know is that if you were taking care of him, there would not be any reason for him to cheat on you. Cheating to me starts from communication right down to a physical relationship. Wives or girlfriends who are being cheated on, examine yourself to figure out why. Perhaps he is doing it because lack of your interest.

This man is full of crap. And I hate this kind of man. So leave him alone.