Hey, this is kind of embarrassing but I need help and I don't know where else to go. Me and my boyfriend are both 20, and have been with each other for 3 years. At first he used to get so aroused by me, and would always be coming onto me which I loved. About 6 months later, he lost all interest in me. He never comes onto me anymore, and if it wasn't for me coming onto him, we would NEVER have sex. It sounds like an exaggeration but it's the truth. He doesn't seem to even fancy me anymore. I am attractive, most men would queue for a chance with me. But my confidence is at an all time low as my own boyfriend, whom I love very much, doesn't seem to want me anymore? What should I do? We currently have sex around once a week.

The lust has worn off, so how is the rest of the relationship?

Have you talked about this with him?

What did he say?

Besides the sex, why do you think he has lost interest in you?

Any major life changing events going on?

Thank you for your reply, I have spoken with him about this and he just seems to brush it off and ignore the question. He has never actually answered me. We moved in together around 6 months ago but everything is fine, we have the odd few arguments here and there but who doesn't? We have a really good relationship other than the sex part. I don't have the first clue as to why he has lost interest. :(

He has "lost interest" because you are a sure thing in his life and he doesn't have that need to chase you any longer. He knows you will always be there, so there's no hurry any longer to enjoy you while he can. What was happening before was "extreme" and new and exciting. The first flush of conquest is over. Now you are experiencing something more normal.

Does he frequently show and tell you in other ways that he loves you?

No he doesn't, now that I think about it. Its always me telling him I love him, and asking for cuddles and being affectionate, but never vise versa :( I don't want to break up with him :(

What DOES he do for you that you would think is loving and supportive?

Why wouldn't you break up with him? What does he do that makes you want you want to keep him around?

I have the same problem with my partner, he never comes on to me unless I beg him... I think that yes okay we all get bored and lose interest from time to time. But not to a degree of losing complete interest its lazy and your still trying so its no excuse for him try. Maybe he watches porn?