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sadkid7
Dec 12, 2010, 12:20 AM
Well I dated this girl for 1 year and 10 months and what not yeah we use to fight and what not but I never let that get in the way of my love for her... she meant everything to me and I did everything to be with her

Like I live in New York City and for college I got accepted to Buffalo State but turn it down because I wanted to be with this girl I love so much... so I stayed in the city thinking I made the best choice of my life...

Weeks after that she broke up with me on her birthday saying she needed space to think and what not but on that same day she went on a date with some guy she started saying she loves him and never me and that she was cheating on me for 9 months with my guys and that she never love me that I was a joke...

I left to Florida because my heart hurt so much so I needed space to think but while their she like she miss me and that we need to speak and what not... so I flew back to New York and she never spoke to me...

I thought we were going to get together because we started talking again smooth and than I notice she dating some other guy she keeps saying how happy she with him and how he the best and that she falling for him just of 3 days dating...

Now I feel sad every day I wake up I see she always with him is like she writes this statues to make me go crazy and now I feel like my life is ending I want to know really how can I get over this girl for good

ironhide262
Dec 12, 2010, 02:17 AM
You can start by stop being such a sucker for punishment!
Stay away from this girl. Go No Contact.. erase everything that reminds you of her and don't answer any of her calls/texts/IM's. Read the stickies at the top of the relationship page.

Also, start seeing this girl for what she is... a lier, cheater and user. You really need to take this time for yourself to understand why you let this girl just use and disrespect you like that. You should have never considered coming back to her. This type of girl just takes and takes but, you of couse, just gave and gave.

joypulv
Dec 12, 2010, 02:24 AM
Since we aren't hearing her side of the story, we can't possibly know why she is torturing you. Either you are doing something that drives her nuts, or she enjoys causing jealousy, or she is confused and has no idea what she's doing. Or, as is often the case, there's a little bit of all of that going on.
What can anyone do about unrequited love? Not much but wait until time heals your wounds. Eventually you realize that the pain isn't worth it and she isn't worth it. Stop running your own life around her, and make plans for college or career again. You are young and need to work on your future. Gather friends around to distract you from thinking of her. Their job is to tell you she's not for you.

sadkid7
Dec 12, 2010, 07:09 AM
Comment on ironhide262's post

Thanks this really is helpful... you got a point I guess she use the word love to use me and get what she wanted... thanks again this was helpful

Comment on joypulv's post

Well I could tell you this much about her she the type of girl that always try's to fit in with the crowd. I just feel so hurt I never imagine us apart, but know it seems like she rubbing her being with someone in my face and it hurts

talaniman
Dec 12, 2010, 12:05 PM
You won't feel like such a fool, if you stop checking her status, and start doing your own thing by, going back to school, and working on a great future without her in it.