Okay, so my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now. Everything was great, we had fun, great sex almost daily, and we really seemed to hit it off. Now, I am lucky if we have sex every 2 weeks. I feel she really isn't interested in my anymore... it has been probably over a year since she has initiated our sexual activities, and always seems like I'm making her do it rather than she wants to. I get the "I'm tired", "not feeling well", "headache", "I dont like to have sex during the day" almost every time I attempt to have any sort of intimate contact. When we sleep she turns the other way. When we do have sex, it can't be without a porn movie, or something to add to the effect. She says she's had quite larger than me... do you think this is a problem? Or do you think that she just isn't interested in me anymore? She tells me she loves me, that she wants this... but I have a very hard time believing it. HELP!

What is your relationship like outside of the sex? Are the two of you intimate in other ways? Do you express affection, or touch her, without it leading to a sexual advance? Such as a back rub, just for a back rub.

What do the two of you do for fun? What activities are you involved in? Do you "date" still? Does she work and do the bulk of the housework too?

Have you talked about what she may be needing or wanting from you?

Trust me, I am really in no business to give advice right now. I just can relate to what you are going through. I am in a 12 year relationship, and can tell you that it's crumbling right before my eyes. Don't wait to long to jump ship if necessary, because it only gets harder to do. I am not telling you to do that, but just keep that in mind. Good Luck, I wish you the best.

Dude do you ever talk about why she isn't happy in this relationship? Forget the sex, your problem is in other areas that you need to find out about. As long as this is about just sex in your mind, you will never get to the bottom of the problem. Stop worrying about your own needs and find out what's really going on.

There is a breakdown somewhere.