Everybody tells me that cutting is bad. But what if cutting is the way for someone to keep from coming apart. I'm just trying to figure it all out. Is cutting bad if it keeps you from falling to pieces.

It isn't the only way, and it alarms people. Sooner or later they see the cuts or catch you cutting, and will call an ambulance and have you committed for about 10 days and release you to a planned program of therapy or a group (maybe you are hoping?). You need to find someone you can tell, an adult you like and who you believe will direct you toward the right kind of help, usually weekly therapy, if you aren't suicidal.
Scars are forever too, and can get infected. Someday you may be happy and there you will be on a sunny summer day, covered in marks. Not something you probably care about now, but I am saying it anyway.
Best wishes for a solution, and answer back!

It is wrong, ( not bad) big difference. And there are many other ways to deal with the problems.

You will need to get help and find out how to help deal with what you believe are your issues.

Didn't we recently have a thread going about this?

Cutting does not help you "deal with things." It only gives you new problems. It means you refuse to find ways to get your power and control back again. It means you are wimping out and giving in. It means you are letting "them" win.

If you want to be strong and in control of yourself and your life, you don't cut.

Does anybody truly win? My parents don't,my friends don't. And I certainly don't. Cutting is the only way I know how 2 release the emotional pain I have.

does anybody truely win? My parents don't,my friends don't. And i certainly don't. Cutting is the only way i know how 2 release the emotional pain i have.
Yes, you can win by become a whole person who has control of more than just defacing her body and disrespecting herself. Your parents and friends win by being pleased to know you and being proud of you.

There are other ways -- constructive ways -- to release that emotional pain. What did you do to cope before you starting cutting?

Punched a wall... and if that didn't work I'd put on music and turn it as loud as it would go. But now my ear phones are broke and I can't punch the wall and no one notice anymore.

You need to discuss your problems and get help for them, not harming yourself or doing destructive things

no one notice anymore
You want to release your emotional pain, or do you want people to notice you and notice your pain?

I don't care if people notice me. I've gone years without caring about that. All I want to do is release emotional pain. But if I punch a wall and put a hole in it how would I explain what happened to my parents? I can't just say I felt like punching a wall,I would get grounded.

how would i explain what happened to my parents? i can't just say i felt like punching a wall,i would get grounded.
So you would say, "I have emotional pain" and it would be okay?

I am really getting the feeling your emotional pain is centered around the fact that you want to be noticed and paid attention to and even hugged once in a while (appreciated for who you are).

No they wouldn't understand. You are kind of right but not all. I just want to be paid attention to when its my birthday or a special day. I want my mom to notice that I'm crying in my room and see what's wrong. Someone to see that all I think about when I'm at home is giving up,that all I think about is killing myself. Going away so that everyone will be happy. And yeah I do want to be appriated for who I am but mainly by my family. I want to be able to feel that I'm appreciated even if I don't have straight A's. But my family doesn't. They always want me to be somebody else or make better grades.They always want more from me than I can give. I'v ran out of stuff to give but they just want more and more.

I'v ran out of stuff to give but they just want more and more.
Do they think you aren't working up to what you could really do, that you're slacking off?

Yh they think my boyyfriend is distracting me from studying but he's not. I can't study and keep it in my head when all the words in the book seem to spell out die,kill,injury,escape,go away,it would make everyone happy,and stuff like that. My boyfriend helps me keep from thinking like that. He helps me escape from reading those words.

My boyfriend helps me keep from thinking like that. He helps me escape from reading those words.
What's his secret? What does he do?

He tells me he loves me when no one else does. He knows when to make me smile and when to just let me cry it out. But while I'm crying he doesn't leave my side. He shows me he'll always be there,when no one else is around. He makes me know that I'm wanted by him even if no one else will. He makes leaving life hard because I know I'll make one person cry if I do die. I know I'm his if no one else wants me. He lets me know I'm valuable. He shows me light through the darkness, when everything is dark he lights it up. I don't know how he does it,but he does. He there for me even when I act like a b****(please excuse my language,but there's no other word for it.)

Self examination is the first step to stopping this habit because it is dangerous to your body. Ask yourself, 'What purpose does self-injury serve for me? What am I thinking about when I feel the urge to cut?' Once you understand why you do it, confide in someone trustworthy (preferably older and wiser who is known for their compassion). Self-harm can also be a side effect of other conditions like Bi-polar Disorder, Depression or an eating disorder so it might pay to see a Doctor.
There are alternatives to cutting or punching the wall. You could try writing you feelings down on some occasions, other occasions try drawing/scribbling pictures of your mood. You won't change overnight, but given time you can come out of this on top IF you let others in to help carry the load.

I tried writing my feelings and my parents found everything.I tried letting people in bt they used me.im nt bipolar and I don't hv an eating diorder I don't need 2 see a doctor and I'm nt depressed.

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I tried writing my feelings and my parents found everything.I tried letting people in bt they used me.im nt bipolar and I don't hv an eating diorder I don't need 2 see a doctor and I'm nt depressed.
Please stop chat-speak/texting, and use good English like this is school. Your posts are difficult to read.

So nothing we suggest will work for you. What do you think you should do?

Honey, you ARE depressed. People who are not depressed do not cut themselves. They do not think about dying.

Self mutilation can lead to suicide. It is one of the first steps of suicidal people. People who are suicidal are depressed.

Do you have a teacher you can talk to? A counselor at school?

I talked to the counselor but what she told me to do didn't help me a lot.I did stop cutting myself but then I began to feel like I was in a deep dark pit of emptyness.then in order to know I was still alive and on earth I cut again.

Not really

I know I am going to get "reported" for this, but I do believe everyone should understand a bit more about this subject through a cutter's eyes. I am a cutter, have been for over 10 years. Everyone goes through stress, it's just a part of life, what really people only care about is how to handle it. And let me tell you, all these folks telling you to stop it and and just saying it behind a closed door with their own skeleton with them. Stress relief is a "pick your own poison" type a game. You can choose drugs or alcohol like most people, smoking, eating like the obese, become obsessed with technological gear, or even sleeping too much. Even when you try to find a healthier solution like something creative, there will always be a critic laughing at you. So I picked cutting out of all that. Why you ask? Simple really, every stress relief harms you in some way or another, I just found cutting the most quick, easiest, and natural way to do so. Bodies go through so many cuts all our lives and hardly any of them do serious damage. All you got to do is take care of it. All I do is slather it up with some Neosporin and nothing ever happens, and nothing ever will happen. I don't know, but it sure does beat damaging my inner organs. And I've been told about all my serious addiction problems and past problems and stuff. But I'm being honest here, I have never ever touched any drug in my whole life. Not even weed, I don't need it, I've already picked my poison. I'm not telling you to do it just to choose wisely. Just FYI!

I am a former self injurer. I do see your side of things, I really do. I self injured( for ease I will put SI ) because I did not have access to other coping mechanisms. I was put on medications that made me less emotional. I felt nothing. Though I still did injure myself.
Is it wrong you ask? No to begin with that is a judgment based in no facts. Fact. You have extreme emotions and don't know any other coping mechanisms. You SI it is what it is .
I also agree with your other point. There are lots of negative coping mechanisms in the world yet lately the world focuses on the SI
Now that you know I am not judging you nor am I out to MAKE you change. I will make some suggestions. Take what works and ignore what does not. Everything will not work for everyone.
1. Look at finding a therapist experienced in self injury and working to show you new coping mechanisms. Why I say experienced is I had some that would make me sign contracts that I would not be able to see them after I SI'd. What that did for me is make me fell like crap when the emotions got too high and I would hide what I did or end up in hospital as I would stuff the emotions until I was suicidal.
2. Pick one emotion/situation you want to learn about and figure out how to handle. Break it down into the smallest goals that you can. You want to make this doable. For example: I want to go shopping but am scared. My steps may be : 1. eat breakfast 2. shower 3. get dressed. 4. figure out how to get to store 5. make a list 6. get to store 7. walk in store 8. do shopping 9. go home As you can see this is down to the smallest goals and helps make it not so overwhelming.

Darn it posted before I was done.
Try using some self soothe skills when you are in high stress/emotion. What things do you like doing? I have a safety box full with things that help me out during those times. It has crayons, markers, coloring books, puzzles, puzzle books, lotions, candles, craft supplies and more.
AGAIN you are not bad. You are using what you have to cope and that is okay. When you are ready you will learn other coping mechanisms. Judging yourself is doing no good.