This is my story of how I ****ed up and lost my girlfriend. This all started about 3 years ago I had this amazing girlfriend that I loved and cared for then after one year. I (out of the blue) started talking to one of my ex-girlfriends. I didn't mean to talk the way I did I was just hoping we could get passed what we had and be friends.

As my ex saw it I was cheating on her. I kept telling her that I couldn't do that, she meant more to me then my ex. But she didn't believe me so she broke up. I tried for countless weeks to say I'm sorry for what I did. After a few weeks past she forgave me and said please don't let this happen again. I promised her that I wouldn't talk to her again.

A year down the road we ran into a few problems with me and working with people she didn't like. But I kept tell her I will do what I can to not talk to her and on my break I will call you and tell you how my day went. Everything was going good until people started saying that I was cheating on her. I couldn't figure it out, why people were saying that about me because I wouldn't ever do that to her

After a while of people saying rumors about me sleeping with some girl, she broke up with me. So about 4-5 months down the road I was making it up to her for what I supposedly did to her. After all went down we got back together and things were good, but toward the summer I just couldn't take the rumors anymore, so I broke it off with her.

Then things went bad I felt so ****ty after what I did to her I wanted say I was sorry for what I did and want to be with her again but she was dating one of my closest friend. So after I say what I had to tell her she said that she happy now and couldn't go back out with me again and said you so move on.

So I am asking for help I need to move on but I still think there hope for us?
Sorry for making this thing so long and looking like a little story.


Edited for understanding/T

Your post is confusing, but I assume that since you apologized to her for your behavior, that you were doing her wrong.

You insinuated you weren't really guilty, but indicated that the rumors were flying about you. If you truly were innocent, why in the world would you allow false rumors to break you up? Did you do something wrong or not?

To the ex, your breaking up with her was probably an indicator that you were seeing someone else. To the ex, I would say that it was her final straw.

Sounds like you can't quit screwing up. Just let her go and move on.

It sounds to me like you need a new circle of friends and you need to cut the drama out of your life. How old are you? This whole dating saga is like a soap opera.

Comment on kctiger's post

I'm 18 but I know that there always drama no matter what I just can't seem to get away.


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Sorry about that I was doing this half asleep well to be where I am now I've had to messed up some how. The rumors were getting to the point that my school work wasn't where it need to be. But its hard to let some one go if you have history with them

Geez guy, after all those break ups most caused by rumors, I would think you rather have a girlfriend who believed, and trusted you, and some better friends for sure. Mercifully, now you have a chance for both, and you should take it by leaving the ex, and the old friends alone.

If anyone needs a fresh start, its you.

Yes that would be the best thing to do. Its one thing to say and another to do when your ex live right across the road from you. I know that I must move on but I am going to need a little help in the right direction.

I know its easier said than done, been there many times, but lets face it, you will see her and have to learn to cope with those feelings. The best way is be polite, but to busy for long protracted talks especially about what once was. That requires you to not isolate yourself or hide, but be very busy with other things you look forward to, and enjoy. You may have to hang in a different circle as her and mutual friends. These things are not easy either, but sitting on a pity pot and dwelling on what you have lost gains you nothing.

The best way to deal with old feelings is to make new ones, better ones. The best way to let old feelings pass, is to be doing your thing. Yes its hard to break old attachments, habits, feelings, and memories, and there is no easy way to do it, no magic formulas, just some hard work on yourself.

Sometimes all you can do is roll your sleeves up, and get busy. Add your healing to the top of the list for your daily chores, and get her done. Read the stickies (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/), and get a lot of suggestions and insights of dealing with the emotional fall out of a break up.

Well its been a while scents what went down between my ex and I. she has found her new boyfriend and its about time for me to start looking for my girlfriend and note letting feeling about my ex drag my down into complete maddens for her.

If you think about there about over a hundred thousand girl where you are living right now,that are easily the same as your ex or even better then your ex and all you got to do is take the time and look for that one that makes you happy again.