My girlfriend broke up with me for another guy, we were together 5 months. When we met we had this major connection between us, a lot of chemistry. But when we dicided to start a relationship I kind of backed off due to me being insecure about my past situations with other girlfriends. I was cheated on and I was afraid to get hurt again. Most of the time I was myself and we had great times together but other times I start holding myself back saying things I regret telling her. I was being hard and tough on her. Time would fly and we couldn't believe this was happeneing. She was Glowing and always happy when we wre together. Just when I held back she felt bad and asked me to please not be like that. I said please understand I'm just afraid to apoint that we had an argument about stupid things I told her OK let break up which I regret to this day. I was insecure and I wanted to know if she would fight for me.

Before us she was devorced for 6 months. She was married for three years and was to a guy she didn't really like but she felt secure with him. They had a child together which is now 3 years old. At first I had a hard time bonding with him as it was my first girlfriend with a child. He liked me and showed good things as I noticed and she noticed. Example is when the boy would met some people he would show he didn't like them. It came to a point he was calling me dad and was happy to see me but I would always hold back as I didn't no how to treat him, either as a soon or just as a child.. I was confused and didn't no how to deal with the situation to the point that I told her that he was a spoilt child. I began to tell her to do things in certain ways so that she could gain control of him. She would get abit upset and I realized that you I shouldn't be like this as its her child and not mine.

She was a person that hard a lot of things to deal with, which I saw wasn't very easy for her. She was in a middel of a divorce, where her ex didn't help her with money for the child, his school would be 300euros a month and rent would come two 200 then there was bills and food to pay. That was hard to deal with when your on a based salary of 700. At the same time she was sharing a room with her son and sister as they couldn't afford to pay the full amount of rent and they rented there extra room out to a girl they didn't no, so that was already hard to deal with. Her job was also giving her a hard time as her boss was to hard on her for the most stupid reasons. Jealousy and so forth. My point of this is that she was already under a lot of pressure.Now with me in the middle of all this she would talk to me about her problems and I would tell her look you should maybe do this or try this and not worry about things, basically support her but she didn't like it. She began having problems with her sister and I kind of told her sister off and he didn't like that. Once I was in there house and her sister sat down in and she was facing me and my girlfriend noticed that we could see her underwear. She got annoyed and told her sister off and they started arguing and me stupidly got in the way and said that you should get made she in her house she can be the way she wants right? Well I realised again that I was wrong to go against her... she asked me to leave and I went as well annoyed. She got upset. Kind of made things hard for us.

Over sometime she started talking to this guy she knew from a few years ago, she told me about him but didn't tell me they were talking. I was told that they were talking by her sister and not by her. From what I understand they were talking about our relationship how things were.I was told that he was telling her that I wasn't the right guy for her and so on... basically telling me I wasn't the right guy.

We argued again over something stupid and I broke up with her. She asked are you sure I was like yes because I wanted to be with her as it was Friday night and she told me that we couldn't be together tonight as she had to wakeup early in the morning to go work. I was annoyed that she said that cause I would take her to work in the monring no problem I had done before. After a day or so we spoke again and I asked to get back together and that we should just fix things. She told me that I should change my actions and that there are guys that would like to be with her. I said yes I know and I was sorry for my actions. We made up and things seemed all right for a week or so till we things got abi strange and we argued again and broke up. Day after she told me what if I said I like antoher guy? I kind of flipped ad I asked are you cheatting on me and she said no but she seemed to have attractions to him. She had admitted me that this was the problem and I kind of begged to try for us again. I had told her that I have understoud things to a point that I should be a better person to her and open up. Told her all the things I did wrong and what I realized. She gave us a chance again but it wasn't the same she would get messages sometimes and her mood would change. When we were together it would be great but she was always on mood swings and she said that she wanted space and time to think cause she was confused about what was going on. I kind of understoud her point but I was at the stage of wanting to try hard to make things work that she was at the point of giving up. We went through this for a month as it was meant to be the chance that she was giving us, I understoud that she was still in contact with this guy. A day came by when she had a major argument with her sister and bascially took it out on me that day and I didn't say anything but just took it in and she came back saying sorry that it wasn't my fault. That night she told me that she wanted to break up, that she didn't like what she was doing to me by talking to him and she said she also was giving him hope. I don't no what they been talking about... so I was in a situation where I didn't no what to do. I just wanted to make things work out.

She broke up with me after buying that gift and she went out with him and that was it. She was saying that she was sorry that we are not for each other and that she liked this guy.
They have been meeting up with each other for a week and a few days now and I I've been texting her to talk and try and work things out. Said she was suffering with this situation and that she didn't like that I was getting hurt because of her. She was saying sorry all the time and she said she knows its hard and that maybe we were not meant to be...

I was heart broken and was trying to see what I could do to maybe make things work. I was told after that he has been saying why do I go on trying to talk to her when she doesn't want to. He was not happy with the situation as he was thinking already that if they got into an argument that she would come back to me.

I begain to think that he kind of made her change her mind about her feelings for me.
Im asking myself what should I do? Do I have a chance to make things work between us again? I feel that he has tricked her. He was already married and with 2 kids how is he going to be there for her all the time? When I was there for her all the time. We were crazy about each other to the point that she was wanting to say that she loved me and planned future things for us such as moving into a flat together and travelling. Things where amazing when I was myself with her just when I wasn't it wasn't pleasant for her and she new that I was holding back. I feel she gave up. She said to be that she would really like to be friends and I said it would be hard for me as my feelings were strong for her. I Feel that I'm truly in love with her and that she still has feelings for me.

I hope you realize you were a classic case of a rebound, and were two people who needed someone in their lives. You were insecure, and she was confused. It didn't work because you both had your own issues, and neither could really help the other, or move to a common ground to move forward. You both had, and still have different needs.

However I know that break ups always suck, whether there was always conflict, or none at all.

Those are the feelings you have to cope with, and learn to manage, and if you leave her alone you will, and have a proper healing, so you can move forward to better things, and chalk this very short, emotional experience up to growing, and learning. You did your best, it just wasn't meant to be. Accept that.

What are her chances with this guy?
I think now it was the right choice because its make me realise. Its changed me to the point that I'm able to be secure with myself.
Would that mean I may have a chance with her again if she senses this change? When we started there was this major connection that I never had with anyone and I feel that she felt the same. She has told me that she is suffering from this whole situation but she has turnned to him. I'm guessing because he's just older also just got devorced and has kids. But does that work?
Anyway of her coming to me again? Any ideas what I should do to get her back?

Sorry guy, I don't see her coming back, and it would make no difference if she succeeds with the new guy or not. When feelings change, they seldom change back, and that's something you will better understand when you have gone through that experience of YOUR feelings changing.

No one can predict the future, anything can happen, but its best to face what's coming with a clear mind, heart, and conscious. That's what healing is about. Quiet as its kept, after a proper healing most people would never go back to the exes simply because they see better options, and opportunities to be happy than they had before.

Sure, right now because you are hurt, and shocked you want a return to what was good, and comfortable, but when the hurt is over, and it will be, you will see the whole world differently, and won't worry about an ex who has dumped you and is doing her thing and is happy. You just won't have the time, or energy to waste on caring because, you will be doing your own thing and enjoying it to the max.

My girlfriend broke up with me for another guy, we were together 5 months. .

I know you wrote a lot after this, but I stopped right here. The answer is no. She was just using you as a place holder until someone else came along that interested her.

The rest of your story was probably how perfect you were for each other, but in reality you couldn't be because to be perfect for each other both parties must respect the other and she obviously doesn't respect you. You need to work on some self respect as well. You do not have to wait around for someone who dumps you for another person. That is not somebody who respects themselves. You deserve better then that, and you must accept better then that, not from her or any other woman but from YOU. No woman is worth yourself respect.

I do understand what you saying but I'm just confused with the fact that she was crazy about me. She was saying she wanted to live with me travel and wanted to say I love you but I didn't let her. She lying or tell the truth?

i do understand what you saying but im just confused with the fact that she was crazy about me. she was saying she wanted to live with me travel and wanted to say i love you but i didnt let her. she lying or tell the truth?

She was lying. Women who want those things don't run off with someone else.

Listen to a girls actions, not her words.

Which do you believe, what she said, or what she did?

I believe in what she felt. She showed it a lot. That's why I'm confused with this situation.

i beleive in what she felt. she showed it alot. thats why im confused with this situation.

This woman used you and then she ran off with someone else. Now you want to wait until that ends like her puppy waiting for the food dish? What the hell man? She showed you nothing other then the door.

If she felt what you felt she would be with you. Wouldn't you say that something drastically changed? Her feelings for you? Or are her feelings stronger for the new guy?