nat_k
Dec 6, 2010, 01:07 PM
Me and my husband have been married for 2 years and I met him first time 3 years ago.. at that time we were living in the same city but soon after I had to relocate to another city... so basically we spoke a lot over the phone.. or should I say.. we "dated" over the phone... we use too see each other every month sometimes every 2 months and only for 2 max 3 days...
This kept on going for 1 year until we decided to get married... a very simple court marriage.. from the day I got married I started to realize that I didn't actually really know him... whatever I though was completely different.. perhaps because we really never spent enough time together... I started to realize we have different choices, tastes, mentalities.. etc...
I am a very active and social person and mu husband is just the opposite of me... initially I tried a lot to get my husband to go out.. maybe a restaurant maybe a cinema.. a weekend.. tennis.. bowling.. I don't know.. I remember once when I asked him to go and watch a movie in the cinemas he said.. why? Its online lets watch.. I told him that I really wanted to watch this particular one in the cinema.. he replied.. "you always want to go out.. didn't we went out to eat pizza last month???" I was shocked... this is what he categorizes as going out... anyway.. I started to go out with some friends one in a while because I couldn't just stop living my life because of him.. even that he didn't like.. always taunting me... moaning... for every single thing.. so I stop telling him stuff to avoid this paranoia.. he got to the point that if I am not at home he would call me over and over.. and if I don't pick or miss the first call he would just keep calling and calling... yesterday unfortunately I got a parking ticket for staying over the time allowed at mc donalds.. he saw this ticket and went crazy.. why? How? When? Who with... we had argument... he called me names and everything... I understand that he might got upset for few things that I did without telling him.. but I did that because as I said.. I couldn't take anymore of his lectures about everything... I am fed up... but I also love him... but I also feel I don't have a future in this relation... I don't know what to do...
This kept on going for 1 year until we decided to get married... a very simple court marriage.. from the day I got married I started to realize that I didn't actually really know him... whatever I though was completely different.. perhaps because we really never spent enough time together... I started to realize we have different choices, tastes, mentalities.. etc...
I am a very active and social person and mu husband is just the opposite of me... initially I tried a lot to get my husband to go out.. maybe a restaurant maybe a cinema.. a weekend.. tennis.. bowling.. I don't know.. I remember once when I asked him to go and watch a movie in the cinemas he said.. why? Its online lets watch.. I told him that I really wanted to watch this particular one in the cinema.. he replied.. "you always want to go out.. didn't we went out to eat pizza last month???" I was shocked... this is what he categorizes as going out... anyway.. I started to go out with some friends one in a while because I couldn't just stop living my life because of him.. even that he didn't like.. always taunting me... moaning... for every single thing.. so I stop telling him stuff to avoid this paranoia.. he got to the point that if I am not at home he would call me over and over.. and if I don't pick or miss the first call he would just keep calling and calling... yesterday unfortunately I got a parking ticket for staying over the time allowed at mc donalds.. he saw this ticket and went crazy.. why? How? When? Who with... we had argument... he called me names and everything... I understand that he might got upset for few things that I did without telling him.. but I did that because as I said.. I couldn't take anymore of his lectures about everything... I am fed up... but I also love him... but I also feel I don't have a future in this relation... I don't know what to do...