This is so hard, it's been rough the past couple of months but I've been trying my best to make him happy. A few days ago he broke up with me because everything came crashing down on him and he says he needs space to find himself. To figure out what he wants to do with his life. He says there is no other woman and that he cares for me but can't give me what I need right now when he doesn't know what he needs at the moment. His father has talked to me and calls me everyday letting me know how he is and checking up on me. His dad says to just leave him alone and he will come back. That his son loves me very much but just doesn't know what to do with himself right now. He is 23 yrs old and I'm 25.
He hates his job, doesn't know what career to take, he really wants to give this whole MMA thing a try but its do hard on me because I don't hear from him directly.
Him and his dad have the biggest line of communication, he tells him absolutely everything so I know I can trust his dad. He says that he sees us being together in the future and he can even see us being married in just a few years. He says I'm the best thing that could have ever happened to his son and he loves me like a daughter and wants us to be together as well. He told me he can work his magic with him but just to give it time. He doesn't know if it's going to take a couple of weeks or a couple of months but it would never be to the extent of a year.
It's very hard on me because I can't sleep, I can't eat, I don't have many friends, the one friend I do have is so busy with full time work and full time school and lives with her boyfriend I feel like such pain if I go to her. I'm trying to keep myself occupied but nothing seems to be working. I may crack a smile but inside I feel dead and I know when I'm going to be OK but this time I'm not, Not until I have him back and its harder on me because theirs nothing I can do to help him.

Despite the reassurances from his father that you will be back together again I don't think you should keep your hopes up for that. Anything can happen in the furure. Sorry to be so blunt but, you can't really count on something you do not have right now.

It looks like he is trying to figure out which direction his life should go in right now and he wants to do that on his own. So, let him go. You have been trying hard to keep this relationship going but, it wasn't enough.

You need to focus all your energies on yourself. You have spent so much time being attentive to him that you forgot what was important to you. Things like friends( very helpful to have them in times like these). He is doing what's best for him and you need to do the same about you. Don't sit around waiting for him and still making him the priority when right now you are just an option.


I know it is very hard right now but, force yourself into getting out and doing things. Become selfish, go to the gym, join some clubs, find some friends, maybe there have been some things that you wanted to do but couldn't during the relationship. Just keep busy... your life has changed now so time to reprioritize.

I feel your pain, but stop the communications with his dad immediately! Its not his place to keep you in his sons corner. That's his job. Yours is to do your thing, and leave him alone, because its just not fair to dump someone to find yourself, and keep someone full of hope, while he explores himself. If he doesn't care enough to make time for you, then you should get a life of your own without him.

Relationships that depend on a third person to keep them going are miserable, as you're finding out!

I agree with other advice given. I know you want reassurance that he is going to come back into your life and everything will be back to normal. A lot of us have been or still are where you at. Lost,hurt,emotionally broken. Like any loss you have to have time to mourn and get on with your life. Is it easy=hell no, but you do because you can't let that person take everything! You have to at least keep your pride, don't let him have that!!

Stop calling his father, you are putting him in the middle and he will say whatever. He is probably very sorry that his son has hurt you and doesn't know what to do. So just stop making this man feel sorry for something he had no more control over then you did.

Get out, I don't care what you do, just do something!! Get counseling, professional,clergy anyone that can listen and give you suggestions on how to GET ON with your life without him. Do something different in your life, rather it be a hobbie, or sport, even take a class to get your mind off him and on to who really counts here--YOU! Good luck