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ayazhussain.m
Dec 5, 2010, 06:52 AM
Hello everyone,
I am a Muslim and I am in love with a Hindu girl who is from Rajasthan.. We love each other from last 3 years and its her parents looking proposals for her.. We have already told them we love each other. I don't know how to convince but I love her a lot and she loves me too a lot.. please help how to convince our parents for both of us to live the rest of our life happily.
Regards
Ayaz
Jake2008
Dec 5, 2010, 09:47 AM
I wish there were someone who can advise you better than I can, but I don't want to see you hangin' here.
A love marriage, vs. an arranged marriage is a fairly common concern among posters in this predicament. I don't know if it makes you feel better, but, you are certainly not alone.
I don't know what you have tried to do to win the approval of your parents, and her parents. Can the two of you, or have the two of you talked to both sets of parents? Is there a sibling, or close relative or friend that can speak on your behalf? Perhaps a mediator who is versed in your religions, who can assist you?
I can only offer the advice to seek help in negotiating with both sets of parents.
I don't know that if and when push comes to shove, that the woman you love will abandon what is expected of her, and choose love, over her parents expectation that she accept a man that her parents have chosen.
I realize that this is far more complicated than a gal from Canada can ever understand. I hope someone with experience that has better suggestions will post.
In the meanwhile, I hope that the two of you, find a way to marry.
Cat1864
Dec 6, 2010, 11:01 AM
Before trying to convince your families, have you both taken a long, hard and very realistic look at what the future would hold IF you did get married? Have you discussed the reality of living together but having different religions, how you would raise your children, how you would compromise on the Traditions you were raised with, etc.
If you have worked out a plan for the future, it might help your families understand how strong your connection is and how much both of you want and Love each other.
Choice1
May 12, 2011, 06:04 AM
Were you able to be together for love? Are you happy?