My girlfriend had been acting quite different the last week before she broke up with me. Her texting was irregular: she would be very slow with replies, and sometimes I would not get a reply at all. She would not be very affectionate at all, though it was on and off. She was going through some very hard things, and I knew about her depression, but in the back of my mind, I knew something wasn't right. After our third month, and me giving her gifts and writing a poem for her, she breaks up with me the day after. Her reasoning is that she is depressed and she doesn't want me to be involved with her right now. This was a pretty weird excuse for me, so I asked if there was another guy she was talking to, or if she just became bored with me. She said no, and that it's "all her" and not me. According to her, she still likes me, and when I told her I was already trying to move on, she seemed very upset. We are currently staying friends and we text still (but not as much). I would love for us to get back together because we made each other very happy. She is sending me very confusing signals, because earlier today at school she came up and hugged and kissed me on the cheek, and also became upset when she noticed I had cut the bracelet she gave me off my wrist. Also, I asked her if she thinks we will ever get back together, and she said she doesn't know for sure because she just doesn't know how much time she needs to herself to deal with things. My questions are.. Should I give this time? Does she really still like me? Should I quit texting her or seeing her in school (even though she is the one that approaches me at times)? I am sure of it that she is quite depressed, because she told others the same reasons, and she has been acting so strange.

I would give it time, If you care about her as much as you say you do, you will understand the space she is asking for and the problems she needs to sort out on her own.

Yes, I do think she still likes you. And I think her reasoning for breaking up with you, is so while she is depressed, upset what ever it may be that she is going threw she doesn't want to bring you down with her. She's not being selfish and just thinking about herself, she was thinking about your well being as well.

I wouldn't over text, but do respond, and don't ignore her at school, you could just be making things worse, not only on how she's feeling, but getting back together if you do want to.

When she comes up to you, and when you texts you, Let her see how much you care, you want to be with her. Even though she might not show it, it means a lot.

Well you should play hard to get, always seem too busy for her and when she text you do the same take a long to reply and keep busy. Look at and hang with other girls to make her want you. If you keep going for her she will know she has you wrapped around her finger but not if you play her game you can turn this around and have her. It is extremely odd that she leaves you for depression after the third month is everything ids going good, there could be another man involved in this so of course she os going to say no there isn't maybe she is just caught up in some kind of triangle, its OK to still talk to her but don't chase her let her come to you and if you want it then take her if not then you will see her true colors and maybe find out the real reason why she needs time. My friend girl friend took a 3 day break from each other so she would go and get married to another guy. The reason why she didn't get married while with someone is because she didn't want to say that she got married while still going out with another guy. Long story short she came back after 3 days only to say she released how much she couldn't live with out him and this is all because her "husband" went back to his country for a business trip. If she wanted you she knows just where and how to find you so give it a few weeks then if nothing happens you should really move forward.
Take care, good luck.

I would give it a bit more time, a little time for her to get better and then see how she acts

Help, I'm in a similar situation. I've been dating my girlfriend for 9 months and she told me about her depression. However, for the last two weeks, things have been crazy and she is feeling overwhelmed. I said some trigger words without knowing and I tried to take over at helping her with these issues. She said to me today that she appreciated my help but she wants me to get back to my own life. She need some time to get pass the trials in her life so I might not hear from her in a while. I said I was going to miss her but I would be there and waiting... Her next response was "goodbye" and I haven't heard anything since then. I'm going crazy and I don't know what to do. She is the first woman I've dated who suffers from depression. I love her and don't want to lose her, so I hope her goodbye isn't forever. The kicker is, this is a long distance relationship so I can't go see her and she isn't taking my calls or responding to my text message. What should I do?

Hi green65eyes, I have a similar situation. My ex girlfriend was depressed (so was I) and we were in a long distance relationship. She asked for space and I wouldn't give it because of my issues. Then she broke up and it wasn't an amicable one. Then a few days back she wrote to me asking how I was and said that she was very depressed. I wrote back in a friendly and encouraging way. She did sound very depressed in her reply. I miss her badly but I think all I can do at this stage is be a little supportive. My over texting or getting insecure won't help her, so what's the point. And if a depressed and needy person says "I love/hate you" it doesn't mean much as they are not emotionally capable of taking the burden of a relationship. So I'd suggest enjoy your own life (do nice things like listening to music or playing it), stay calm and be as supportive as you can. You can't force someone to love you. If they come back, good... if not your fretting over her won't bring her back.

I appreciate the advice and the encouraging words. Things have gotten better each day.