My Wife's Children live with her ex in Istanbul, she is flying out next week end to see them, She lived in Istanbul until they split up three years ago, She will be seeing friends and staying with her Ex. She has told me many times, that if it was not for his preoccupation with trying to get her to convert She would still be with him today. I am woried in case something happens between them.

What's your question?

Give your wife the benefit of your trust. Stop worrying, he is her ex for a reason. She obviously married you because she was over him and loved you.

The main problem in their marriage was his constant pressure for her to convert. Barbur still lives in their same two bedroom flat, the children share one bedroom! I think I am becoming Paranoid that they will sleep together.

If she decides to sleep with him, then there is NOTHING you could do to change that. Your not paranoid, your just out and out jealous. If you didn't want her to stay with him while visiting then you needed to sit down and discuss this with her, and give her another option, like staying at hotel. It is only natural that a Mother wants to see and spend time with her children. Maybe you should have tried to go with her, and again putting in the idea where you should stay at hotel instead of ex-husbands, you can't be jealous and cheap at same time.

I still think you need to give her benefit of trust, hope that you have shown how much you love her and respect her in your marriage, so that encourages her to be true and honest to a good husband.

I was just browsing when I realised that I had not replied since December. Answerme, you were right, there was nothing I could do to stop her sleeping with him, She did sleep with him in December and in May when she went over again. It is as though she is in a different world in her mind when she is in Istanbul. No doubt people will say I am stupid, but I love her and in a way understand her. She and I have talked and I have told her whilst I do not like her sleeping with Barbur I will have to accept it.