Okay so me & this guy have been dating for a 23 months and he just recently broke up with me because he told me he has to many issues in his life n that he just needed time.. I mean.. I've always heard he had problems and I even offered him my help but he rejected me. I really loved this guy... The first week n a half from the break up I did nothing but cry, couldn't eat.. etc.. && I felt like I HAD to text them... to try to work things out... Just kept getting rejected. I started seeing thngs on his Facebook, n noticed he had been txtn this girl at all times (we currently share the same contract) & like him asking for girls numbers, and adding bunch of girls.. like he didn't really kare n that he was probably cheatn? So I decided to confront him. He told me I was crazy and that I was puttn things in my head... Well of course! I felt like his excuse was not enuff.. Like he sayd he loves me but doesn't want to be with me because he doesn't want to drag me into his issues? Im so confused...
anyway... After 3 times of telln him he was talkn to other girls he got mad at me... we stopped talking for like 3 days, He goes on my fb ( I don't know how he got my pw, never thot he would know it) and seen messages from a guy friend givn me his number because he wanted to talk about what had happened ( I'm not talking to the guy)... later that day he posted sh*t about me on his fb, basically saying that I complain about what he does, yet I'm doen the same? & he also put on his status a song by linkn park called In the end? I read the lyrics... harsh lyrics.. :(

I mean he broke up wit me, so I don't know why he's mad?
After that discussion he told me he was DONE with me foreal and to go talk to my little boyfriends.

Haven't spoke to him in a week... Im goen crazy reallly, But I know its best not to even text him.

Ive been going out trying to keep busy but I always see him in my head... grr!

Also, we had a great relationship.. he told my sister he broke up wit me because of constant arguin (lil arguements)... im so confused on what his real motive is..

Our anni is next week too & our 2 yrs is the next month... =/

HAS HE EVER CHEATED? I don't know if he has.

It's hard to say whether he's cheated or not, but the truth is that he broke up with you, so you need to accept that and move on.

Sure it's tough, but he's already told you he doesn't want to be with you, so you need to stop looking at his FB and just forget about him.

Best thing to do when an ex is spinning you around where you don't know what to think is just to stop thinking. Just go No Contact. Kick him off your friends list on FB and just avoid it for a while( especially if you have some common friends). FB is just another weapon for him and it will just confuse you more in the end.

It will be hard and take some time but, just focus on yourself. You will think about him less and less as the days go by.

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I did kik him off my friendslist.
He automatically began to tell me so much crap.
Like why did I delete them, that I'm moving on too fast... etc.
I deleted him of HIS friends that ADDED me too... pointless to have them.
He's just lost I guess.


Good! Yes, lost is a good description here... don't fall for all the BS. Stick to NC and move on!

I'm trying so hard too not contact him!
Its so crazy... Like I know he's really upset for all the accusations.
I regret it, but its how I felt at the moment... I just wonder everyday if he will text me... I need the pain to go away.

Also, get a new phone number, with your own contract.

Last time I talked to him he told me he was going to save money to pay the cancellation fee.
I cannot see who he textes anymore. So its kind of a relief.

I know it's hard right now. Just remember he wanted this breakup in the first place and you don't need to be taken for another spin around the sun. Stay firm, keep no contact, let the dust settle. In the weeks to come you will gain a new perspective on the relationship and everything that has happened. Just keep hanging out with friends, keeping busy and focusing on you.

Great input, I am able to sleep comfortably without thinking of him. (: & its only been a week.