Hi,

I am 14 and believe that I am quite mature for my age and I do really well at school and am a confident speaker, but I have never had a girlfriend since first school - so that doesn't count as anything. I recently moved up to high school and am trying to be friendly with a girl called Jess. She's blonde, blue eyes, great figure and a nice person. Over the last couple of days, we have talked over Facebook and when I say hi she replies with "heeey! :) xxx" but from experiences with talking to girls on Facebook before, many reply like that normally so I don't really know what to do. We sit next to each other on different tables (if that makes sense) in laths and she said "hi! Peter" happily to me when I walked into the classroom. She has a group of friends who she seems to be really happy around, probably from first school upwards. These friends are quite close and I think that if I ever try and talk to her they will just tease me playfully which means I won't feel good about myself. Which brings me onto how to see her. We are in different forms but in quite a lot of classes together and I am shy around new beautiful girls and I can never bring myself to talk to her, and if somehow I do manage to talk, I never have anything to talk about. Sure people say that I don't need a girlfriend but I am just so shy about telling my parents and going into town just to see her. Every other time I have tried to get a girlfriend it always turns sour with them calling me a freak or a nerd or something like that. Any help would be grately appreciated. My dad never gave me the talk about how to act around girls etc. so I really don't know what to do. I fear if I don't get comfortable around girls know, I may be lonely until a late age.

Hey I know what you mean because I had the same problem when I was your age but I'm a senior in high school now. First off that's how its going to be with the girl you like and her friends THEY WILL TEASE YOU its just a matter of getting use to it and trust me you will. It seems like she does have some interest in you the way she talks girls don't usually act like that when they don't think you are somewhat cute. As for the way you need to treat girls I had to teach myself through trial and error and I love this quote from my favorite band(blue october) the singer says treat girls like princesses because that's what they are, and I'm not saying your suppose to be a knight in shinning armor but you need to treat them respectably and try to joke with them BUT NOT AT THEM. As for a conversation starter or attention getter tell her you think she looks pretty one day or her hair looks pretty or even her eyes and do it right away because no moment will be the perfect moment to say it. Well that's all I have to say hope it helps!

Thanks man, that really helped. I'll try and talk to here more but today I looked over at her and she turned to face me and I smiled but as soon as I smiled my body just went really weird, which has never happened before, and I just turned away.

Also, her friends are male and female and the males are quite funny and people who would make fun of me for a very long time. But the fact that I am only in about 2-3 classes with her a day really leaves me wondering how am I going to talk to her.

As a response to my last question, I have recently been with the girl in questions friend group, However she herself has not said much to me. She doesn't seem like a shy person with her friends but when I came she didn't say as much as usual. I don't know whether this is because she was focusing too much on the task at hand or for some other reason. Most of talking was done by Ryan, a close friend of Jess. I want to talk to her so bad on Facebook or in the flesh but I either think that I will just annoy her or just can't talk to her.

No problem! And feeling weird about smiling and turning away is normal that's what the saying "butterflies in the stomach" is for and if she seems outgoing and when you come by she gets quiet it may just be that she does not want to say something embarrassing or something wrong around you although I was not there so don't really know. Also about her friends teasing you its going to be one thing your going to have to get yous to in life because I dated a girl and my family made fun of my constantly for it (including the older guys) you're just going to have to suck it up if you want to talk to her. As for the annoying part all you can do is, like they all say, be yourself because if she finds you annoying to begin with then hey she probably wouldn't work for you in a relationship anyway. Hoped that helped