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Nathan19
Nov 23, 2010, 12:32 PM
Okay I know this girl she's is like some one who I help out with advise and with boyfreind troubles ( I always helped her out)
She has been to my house we meet and talk oftern and on the 3rd vist to my house we get drunk and had sex...
I've always liked her but didn't think nothing how can I tell that the sex wasant a drunken mistake and see if she likes me
As she always gets horrible boyfreinds I would like to treat her right all my mates say I'm good for her
But I don't want to get hurt like the last girl as I opened up and she rejected me she is single and she always starts convos with me! Any more info please ask as I need help

Thanks a lot to who ever helps

Nathan

I wish
Nov 23, 2010, 12:40 PM
What happened to her? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/she-tells-me-she-loves-me-then-she-say-she-only-wanted-freinds-she-has-boyfreind-507158.html

Nathan19
Nov 23, 2010, 12:49 PM
I listen to advise given and stopped talking to her I blocked her out of my life

I wish
Nov 23, 2010, 12:53 PM
The current girl sounds very unstable, which explains the part about her getting horrible boyfriends. Furthermore, maybe she's not looking for a serious relationship, which is why none of her past relationships have lasted.

It doesn't sound like she wants anything serious either. IF she wanted something serious, you would already know about it by now, you wouldn't have to be guessing.

As for you, quit trying to guess what's on her mind. If you want something, then let her know. If she doesn't want the same things, then find someone else who does. No reason to drag this out.

But I suspect that you're not on the same page. It doesn't look like she wants the same thing as you.

Lastly, I suggest you try to meet more people who have more in common with you. There's no reason to rush into a relationship. Just keep getting to know the other person before taking the next step.

Nathan19
Nov 23, 2010, 01:04 PM
Okay she is a hard person to understand that's why she gets crap boyfreinds its not them being twats its they don't understand her but I do once she described her perfect boy friend and I so badley wanted to be it and I was all of what she described the sex just happened I've meet her after this we still talk fine in fact she still starts every conversation dose this change any of what you put as I'm only trying not to get hurt??

I wish
Nov 23, 2010, 01:05 PM
If you want to be her boyfriend, then best honest with her. I have no idea how she will respond, but you won't know until you ask her.

Nathan19
Nov 23, 2010, 01:09 PM
This is what everyone keeps saying
But its buliding up the courage to ask her
As rejection kills me
But thanks a lot for taking your time to help me much apresheated :)

I wish
Nov 23, 2010, 01:23 PM
Rejection is always a possibility. If courrage is what you need, then take your time to build it.

But look at it this way, she pretty much decided in her mind what she wants. In other words, you already received the email with the results, you just need to open the email.

Even if she does reject you, at least you won't have to continue dragging this out. You will be able to move on sooner with your life.

But here's an alternative for you. Instead of asking her to be your girlfriend so quickly, why not ask her out on a SOBER date. No alcohol involved. See how the date goes, before you decide what to do next.