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feelthefire
Nov 21, 2010, 11:44 PM
Hello everyone... I need some advice from you guys the complete story is like this...
I met a girl 3 years back priya (name changed)... we became good friends... I slowly started falling in love with her..
I told her how I feel for her, but she said she doesn't want to be in relation... she likes being single...
Then I never discussed this with her...
After 3-4 months a misunderstanding caused bitterness among us, and our freindship was over...
I tried to fix everything for months bt at last I too stepped back...
After a time of a year or so.. I tried to contact her again.. I apologised again... this time she accepted my apology
Bt what I came to know was shocking for me... she was in love with some guy...
She said she don't know how she falled for it... bt she falled...
She then tried and helped me to move on... (one more thing during our friendship I told her that I loved a girl years ago... but she went smwhere and I didn't had any contact wth her since then )
It took time bt I tried to move...
She helped me finding her... we found her... bt I was not feeling that same thing some how... like,, yeah I was happpy I found an old friend bt that feeling was not there...
I was frustated very mch...
I think she was my past and I'm still in love with the girl I met later... priya
But,, she in love with some one else... I can't help myself,, I like to be in her company,, I can die to hear her voice... I try to be talk to her as mch as possible... on fb... chatting or anything because that's what makes me feel good
Her smile aahhhh makes me forget everything you know...
Bt she is kind of diff girl... she has her own world... also she is in sm kind of trbl these days... so I don't get to talk with her that much, one more thing I haven't talked about my feelings towards her evrsincw I came to know about her relation...
Because I fell at least we are good friends, if I discuss that thing even that wuldn't be there.. I also don't want to disturb her.
What shuld I do... I am happy that she will be happy with him... bt I too cannot live this way... m trying to accept the truth... bt m helpless... I need som advice on this...

tickle
Nov 22, 2010, 05:20 AM
I don't know what advice you need. She loves someone else, and there is nothing you can do about it. She has been up front with you so it is best you move on.

Tick

Just_Another_Lemming
Nov 22, 2010, 05:31 AM
It is very apparent from what you have written that she is only interested in this other guy. Since you are having so much trouble coping with your feelings for her, I think it would be very wise for you to break contact with her again and make every attempt to find someone else who will reciprocate your feelings. As long as you are speaking with her on a regular basis, you are not allowing yourself to move past this love you hold for her. Think about that love you had at one time for the other girl. Having no contact for a long period helped you disconnect from the feelings you had for her. You need to do the same thing with "Priya".

feelthefire
Nov 22, 2010, 07:27 AM
@ tickle
@ just another lemming
Thanks friends for your advice
Friends m not demanding that she starts loving me.. no no no.. can't even think about this... that guy and she deserves to be with each other
I'm seeking help for myself only... in what way I can move on... I don't want that special feeling to stay inside me...
U know even if her message comes my heart ltrally starts beating fast...
She is my best friend also... yeah best thing is to move on...
I tried the same//// but here the trble lies friends
Want to stay friend with her... bt since she's there m not able to forget..
And I can also not talk to her about this now,, she had done so much for me,, if nw
I'll discss all this,, I think this culd add bitterness...
M regulalrly trying to move on... bt every now and then it strikes that I won't love smone else in my life now...

feelthefire
Nov 22, 2010, 07:30 AM
Ty friend... I respect your answer bt... this space is less to discuss,, I have added my answer below... I'll be happy if u c that and include sm expert advice

feelthefire
Nov 22, 2010, 07:30 AM
Ty friend... I respect your answer bt... this space is less to discuss,, I have added my answer below... I'll be happy if u c that and include sm expert advice