View Full Version : How exactly can I give him that perfect lingerie surprise?
katrinalexandra
Nov 21, 2010, 06:54 PM
Okay so I have been seeing this guy for 6 months and were both pretty active little sex animals. And even though we both have high standards when it comes to sex, its been getting a bit old lately.
I am seeing him tomorrow, and ever since I got this sexy lingerie last Tuesday, I have told him that I have a surprise for him. The surprise is easy. I have a black a brown strapless lace bra with ribbons and matching underwear. The back is fishnet type look and its tiny (He's an *** man, therefore the underwear is more important to him.) And I have thigh high black stockings with strappy black kitten heels.
The problem I'm having is how should I do it?
A few of my choices were,
1. Go in his room like its no big deal, quickly change, and text him something dirty to invite him upstairs, then when he opens the door, I'm wearing a long button up cardigan. And when I unbutton it, his mouth hopefully drops.
2. Tell him to go into his room real quick, wait for 5 minutes, then change in the bathroom. And when he hears the heels coming down the hall, hopefully he's surprised?
3. Show up at his doorstep in sexy clothes at least covering the lingerie and some of the stockings with heels on, and get busy right then and there.
4. Go to the bathroom while he's watching TV or something, change extremely quickly, and walk back in wearing the lingerie.
So I'm very confused as to what I should do. He's extremely experienced in this field, so it gets a bit tough to impress him. I just need good ideas quickly, because I definitely don't have enough time to figure this out.
So please help!
kp2171
Nov 21, 2010, 07:58 PM
The element of surprise is a lovely thing.
Well... first... when does he seem most interested and driven? When does he initiate more? Morning? Night? I mean, if the guy watches TV to wind down (like my female ex did) that might not be the right time.
When I think about the very best surprises I had from lovers... it was out of the blue, it was immediate, it was during a prime time of interest, and it was often all about me, at least to start things off. And I don't say that like its something I expect or demand. I hope I'm a very gracious lover and I love to spend time on my partner. Her needs become my ritual in time and it's a great thing. But sometimes its nice to be focused on. Not that she wouldn't benefit from it either.
So... I absolutely loved it when a lover was in lingerie, waiting for me in the bathroom as I stepped out of the shower. I knew from what she was wearing and from her get the hell over here look that I was getting laid. Period. It was great.
Likewise, another time we were just passing in the hall and she put me to the wall, kissed deeply, and stripped me down. I returned the favor, of course.
Another time a lover deliberately undressed in front of her bedroom window, which faced the back of the house, private, when she knew I was out there and would see. The voyeur aspect was great. The same woman would shower with the bathroom door open.
So... my only concerns about building sexual tension is that he is in a time and place where he is most receptive.
I remember one lover just losing it because shed come over looking to get lucky and I was wiped and tired and completely uninterested. Of course, that was after I had worked a second job after a brutal day at the first and all I wanted to do was to disconnect my brain and disappear for three days.
I like the go to your room patterns. Go to your room. Go take a shower. Read a note that leads you somewhere else in the house. etc.
Kudos on the effort. Most things worth doing in life... love, sex, forgiveness, trust... they are really verbs. Take work. Attention. Effort.
Only bad thing here is you have me thinking about fishnet stockings... ;)
Cat1864
Nov 22, 2010, 04:51 AM
How old are you?
Is there some reason your plans seem a bit to the point? The point being showing him the lingerie.
What about putting on dress/skirt and blouse and going out to dinner (or relaxing around 'his' place) giving him hints of what's underneath while building the anticipation? Then when you get back to 'his' place, slowly unwrapping the 'gift'. It doesn't take much to turn disrobing into a striptease.
smoothy
Nov 22, 2010, 07:26 AM
There are so many ways youcan do this its mind boggling. But most of the best of them involve a degree of teasing, or glimpes in places it might not be appropriate to be flashing him. But there is certainly nothing wrong with going right for it directly..
I know I love great lingerie on my wife. She will never be a lingerie model, but it still dresses the package up very nicley. And she doesn't own a drawer full of granny panties either.
QLP
Nov 22, 2010, 05:17 PM
As long as you live somewhere that this isn't likely to get you arrested, how about being dressed in a long coat,maybe hat and gloves, very prim and proper, and suggest going for an evening stroll. Then at some point either tell him or show him just how little you have on under the coat. Not just outside the local vicarage or the like of course ;P. The contrast between the apparent appearance and what is underneath coupled with the anticipation of getting back to investigate further can be quite interesting.
Enigma1999
Nov 22, 2010, 05:27 PM
I like QLP's idea.
Personally, I would wear that under a long coat, and meet him in a dark restaurant or bar. I would get half way through the meal or drinks (depending where you're at) and show him a little of what you have under the coat. Also telling him how bad you want him in the worst way possible.
That should turn him on. Also, if you are sitting next to him, I would run your hand up his leg. Maybe even bite or lick your lips.
Then you should be good to go.
Good Luck.
katrinalexandra
Nov 22, 2010, 08:17 PM
Well thank you for the feedback.
The timing thing wasn't stressful because he is ALWAYS ready for sex. And I would have gone out but I love staying at his place. We only go out on occasions because we both can never resist cuddling on the couch every day I come over.
But I teased him a good amount until I went into his room, and walked out when he was on Xbox. Lets just say the Xbox was forgotten in 2 seconds flat. Again feedback was great, I'm definitely doing this again with him, so I'll be sure to spice it up again with the new advice :)
Oh and I'm 18 by the way.