"Help, we are two 30 plus women, my friend is married & we work together, we went out a few months ago, had a few drinks and started kissing and she said she faniced me but then the next day she blamed it all on me and said she was just flattered by the attention i give her & it was just the drink, we couldnt be friends anymore or go away, (i think i'm bi & she knows this) Anyway we worked it all out & were stronger as friends then before and openly talked about it. her & her husband moved in a couple of weeks ago short term, The two of us went away the weekend for a get away,i hurt my shoulder and when we went to bed, she offered me a massage but half way thru she said she had to stop as she was getting too turned on, she stopped and then after a while told me to come closer and we hugged and then eventually kissed etc. I dont know what to do, how does she feel? is she bi? she is my best friend & i dont want to lose that, i'm so confused "

She's married.

That means off limits. So your other questions are irrelevant.

You know your Bi. Then leave her alone too sort her stuff out.

And I'd bet one of those things, she needs to sort out, will not include leaving her husband.