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seepony
Nov 19, 2010, 01:29 AM
Here are the facts:
Female
I am 18
Freshman at a private college
Business major
6' tall
Big boned but proportionate and fit (lots of people have told me I have an amazing shape)
To this day I have had no boyfriend, no boy or man has ever expressed any interest in me what so ever. I put myself out there, go to parties, sit with new people at meal times, talk with people and in class. I am not anti social by any means. I am part of many clubs. Could I just be doomed? I have tried instigating relationships but it has never worked and always turned out really bad. HELP! Please.

411Help
Nov 19, 2010, 04:30 AM
You are eighteen years old. You need to relax. Focus on school, and keep doing all the things you're doing, everything will fall into place eventually.

joypulv
Nov 19, 2010, 04:58 AM
I agree! You are among new people, 2.5 months at school.
I knew a couple, she was at least 6' and he was very short; she liked to rest her arm on his shoulder and he would grin from ear to ear.
You never know who you will meet and when.
They say presidents are always tall. Perhaps you are our first woman prez.
As for friends... people sense if you are eager and anxious, so keep it simple and casual and just be friendly and interested, as it sounds like you are doing.
Not all of us are prom queens with guys waiting in line. Many of us just have to wait longer. Most of us, I'd say!

JanieDoe
Nov 19, 2010, 06:10 AM
I'll give you a little story.
My husband is very tall 6.4, good body and face, very friendly.
He had his first girlfriend at 24 y.o.

Me I'm 5.2, a little round around the edges :-) and I had my first BF at 14 y.o
So believe me it doesn't mean anything.
It'll definitely come your way, maybe it's already there but you don't see it yet.
Give yourself time, and don't stress about it, people do feel it and the last thing you want is guys feeling that you are desperate.

Good luck, and believe in yourself.
JD

JanieDoe
Nov 19, 2010, 06:11 AM
Just to precise I'm not like previous generation, I'm 24 LOL

redhed35
Nov 19, 2010, 06:25 AM
Although it may seem like things will never change,I can guarantee you your life will change in so many ways.

Is your life the same since you were 14? Or 16? What about last year?

Enjoy your time in college,it's a great experience,you have the freedom now that you did not have 2 years ago,enjoy your life.

Stop worrying about what's not happening and enjoy what is happening.

Happy people attract happy people!

People come in all shapes and sizes,it really does not matter how you look in a pair of jeans but how you look at the world.

mmresd
Nov 19, 2010, 10:50 AM
You sounds beautiful, so guys may be intimidated, some (and maybe most) guys are shy and cannot bring themselves to talk, maybe you are one of those pretty girls that sit at parties and that we are afraid to talk to, but don't think they are not looking just wait the time will come when someone will approach you and you will feel wanted. Just do your work at school and don't freak out if you are not getting hit on by every guy and your friends are, the time will come and when it does you will notice, until then take care of your stuff. Plus you are only 18 the same way that I am only 19, do you really think than in the next potential 80 years of life which is 400% of what you have lived through, which half the time you barely remember, and only twenty five percent of the time you have been able to be hit on, you really think that there is little chance that you will find someone? If it is something we have, is time, so use it to your advantage, don't rush things, because that is how mistakes are made!

Good Luck,

Javi

seepony
Nov 19, 2010, 01:35 PM
Hey,
Thank you very much. I really appreciate this post!

seepony
Nov 22, 2010, 10:39 PM
Thank you for your comment. It is only in my own mind that I am desperate and I wouldn't even use that term. I play super cool when meeting new people. I will take your advice and just relax about the whole thing, wait and see what pans out.

seepony
Nov 22, 2010, 10:41 PM
That is a reassuring story. I will take it easy and be concentrate on being a pleasant person to be around rather than worrying about the impression I give to others. Thank you for your comment.

seepony
Nov 22, 2010, 10:42 PM
Very, very good point. Life is constantly changing, why wouldn't life be different tomorrow form how it was last week? This makes sense, thank you very much for your post.