View Full Version : I'm hurting my girlfriends social life, what should I do?
mr10000
Nov 17, 2010, 05:39 AM
I've been dating a woman for about a month. She's 19, I'm 20. We love each other very much. We cook together, spend time together, cuddle, hug and kiss in public, have great sex, etc. The biggest problem we have is that I have tourettes syndrome and fairly poor social skills. Because of this, whenever she introduces me to one of her friends she always seems to loose that friend soon afterward. She's starting to become ashamed of me and I feel like I'm becoming a burden on her. What should I do? Is it my fault?. medication can only help the tics. She's told me she heard her friends talking about me behind our backs. Apparently, one of them described me as a "weird freak with psychological problems". I don't say or do anything horrible, I just growl unexpectedly sometimes, talk a little too loudly, and avoid eye contact. I don't care what those people think about me, I just don't want my girlfriend to have to choose between having me and having friends, and I don't want to be someone she's ashamed to go out in public with.
squeak4svs
Nov 20, 2010, 06:00 AM
It is not your fault! If her friends are true friends they will accept yous both. Try explaining to her friends what is your condition and how it affects you, sometimes they just can't understand it and try to avoid it. Your girlfriend will find out who her true friends are, seriously and yes it will be hard for her if she loses them, but she has you and she will meet great friends just might take time to find them. Yous love each other and that's all that should matter
simii
Nov 22, 2010, 11:12 AM
It is not your fault relax and explain yourself too your girl friend I believe if they are her true friends they will respect who she is with and will support her. If they are her friends they will always want her to be happy and at the end your girl friend is the best judge she nows who you are and loved you for that only. If she is there I guess nothing else matter than. If they are her friends they should respect your presence in her life. And trust me if she loves you than you are not a burden on her.ask her o give you time to open up properly with her friends as you are a bit introvert so you need time and there is nothing wrong you its normal. Trust yourself and your love for her.