I'm a freshman in high school and I'm dating another freshman. We dated before in 8th grade and lasted for about five months, we broke up after we came back from the beach. We had spent too much time together and after three months after we got back together and things have been fine since then. We haven't spent too much time together, haven't been so clingy or serious, and we've just had fun and haven't been to sexual like we used to be(lost my virginity to him). But before we started talking again or dating I was talking to this Senior for a while, at first I thought we were just fooling around and having fun and I didn't mind because I felt like messing around but then I found out he was serious about me. He always respected my wishes to not have sex because I didn't want to do it with someone I didn't love and he was always sweet and kind to me. He also looked out for me since he was older and he didn't want me to get in trouble because I would sneak out to hang out with him even though he didn't like me doing that or lying to my grandparents about where I was going. Well one day I let him know that I was getting back with my ex and he was really upset and kind of acted different around me so I kept apologizing to him but he was still mad and then one day he took me aside and apologized for the way he was acting and he told me that he was just surprised how much he liked me and cared for me especially since I'm a freshman. We both still like each other a lot and we know it and so does my boyfriend but I don't know who to be with! I have such strong feelings for both of them and care for both of them. The differences in them are F: not as sexual as id like S:very sexual and I like F:my age and I can be with him for a long time S:not my age and will be going to college F:has the funny side of me S:has the sweet and sensative side of me

I would go with the one that is a better option to support a baby.

Sex IS one of your requirements, either not enough, or more than enough, and serious consideration should be paid to the possible consequences of being sexually active at your age.

I would say that sex, as a risk taking behaviour at any age, should be the biggest worry, because every time you have sex, you risk pregnancy.

So instead of putting their sense of humour, or their age pros and cons out there, trying to decide which one you want, maybe consider asking them if they have any idea how much it costs to have a baby, and have them sign some sort of contract so that if you are one of millions of teenagers that get pregnant, you can take him to court when he takes off and leaves you stranded with a newborn.

Then I guess, if that happens, you'll see just how funny he is, and how far being funny will affect your bank account. Which by the way, should be substantial if you are planning to have sex at your age. You can afford diapers right? Are either of these boys employed?

I find it alarming that you would be considering the sexual part of a relationship as casually as you would pick out the colour of your nailpolish to wear to the freshman dance on Friday night. Best start thinking about clothing a few sizes bigger- just in case.

If you seriously expect helpful answers as to how to choose which sexual partner, which is essentially a good chunk of how you are judging a relationship with either of these boys, you sure won't get it from me.

Keep your pants on, don't risk your future, and don't bring a baby into this world because you don't think pregnancy can happen to you.

Don't know where he got pregnancy from ^^^, but go with the freshman. I know a lot of Seniors, I'm a sophomore and a male, and they get their interests peaked by the more 'advanced sexually wise' freshman. It's not definite, but realize that Seniors know how to play you, and that if they're looking for a more emotionally, physically, sexually advanced female, they'd go into their grade. They subconsciously want the fresh meat so to say because then they kind of own the girl. (Not like prostitution or anything like that, just like they have bragging rights, but non verbal bragging rights.) Also, they know that you probably know less about what your getting into, so your less likely to talk to someone or say no and put your foot down. Kind of like a seniority thing. Take the freshman, your clearly in his best interest. Despite what you think, he probably does have a lot of sexual desires if you guys had sex in the first place. I know, that when my parents left town for 3 days to visit my aunt, me and my girlfriend talked before it. We'd had sex before, she just didn't express a want for more, so I played the subject lightly. But when my parents left, we'd talked, and it turned out she was really turned on, and wanted some more. I wanted to do her all along, I just didn't know how to say it. Now we're closer physically, emotionally, and personally than we ever were before, and we ended up having sex twice a day, and in all honesty, we can't wait to get our hands onto each other, and know each other really really well, what makes us feel good, when not too, and how to turn each other on. =) Not saying were in love, but were really close, and I know we won't be breaking up anytime soon.

Hahahaha and one word of advice. If your not on birth control, use it. I would really hope your using a condom already and know your **** about sex. Use both a condom and Birth Control, just to be safe. Really. Just ask your doctor, they aren't allowed to tell your parents, just make sure the reason on your record (if your parents can see why) isn't sex,and instead it's heavy period flow. TAKE IT EVERY DAY, @ the right time if you do end up getting back into intercourse. Not kidding about this crap though... And it makes it a lot more fun to have sex. You'll start to try out new positions, like reverse cowgirl, girl on top, and stereotypical doggy style, and it's a whole new world of intercourse. You think it's good now... My oh my. Oh and another tip. Try out oral sex. It's a lot easier to get comfortable with each other if you do. Both ways, eating out, and blowing it. And by the way, take it slowly. You're already WAY more advanced than most your age, so I wouldn't exactly start going for the furthest penetration or anything, just push your limits slowly, and it won't feel awkward. Don't stop doing with something new, until your sure you don't like it and have gotten all the way into it unless something feels wrong, like it hurts badly. Happened to my girlfriend the first couple of times, but that's because she wasn't relaxed, so she was a bit too tight. As long as you're careful and your parents/guardian/anyone who will get you into trouble don't find out then sex is a great thing.

Well I'm a senior and I just got out of 3 year relationship it was VERY sexual she says she loves me but I don't see her as a person I want to mary all I can say is think about it I think you should stay with the freshman maybe you can fix the sex thing but I don't know just keep thinking about it