j4jeti
Nov 14, 2010, 07:51 PM
Hi everyone (it's long but please help me). I'm going to need some serious help from you guys, please help me. I met 3-4 months back though a common friend. She asked for my number & we started talking over the phone. We became good friends & used to talk over the phone for hours, late night, at work. We don't work at same place. She gave me enough signals that she likes talking to me or in fact like me. She told me she likes the way I care for her, she likes the way I talk, the way I walk as she used to watch me while I was out for a walk as she lives nearby my place. She was the one to say me that she likes me but "only as a friend" but that was kind of weird because the way she used to talk was just not friendship. She was the one who first asked that we should go out together. We went out couple of time and had a great time together. We never had a physical relationship. She told me that she feel very comfortable with me and doesn't feel like we're new friends. She often used to get annoyed with me on little things then then I had to make up to her the way it is. Slowly I started feeling special for her because of her nature as we'd a lot in common. So I started thinking that she might be just the one I was looking for. I started caring for her like anything gave her a hint that I've started liking her. She never had a relation with any guy before that but she told me about this one guy who was his very good friend and she met her at work and knows him for two years. Even their family know each other very well. But never mentioned anything special about him. But then this one day when I thought of saying my feelings to her she called me up and told me that she's getting engaged next month. That was like taking my soul out but still leaving me alive. I called her that night and cried my heart out to her that I love her and how I had dreamed her to be my life partner. She said she felt nice that I liked her so much because no one had ever liked her so much but it's too late now. She said it happened all of a sudden that she was asked about this and she took 1 hr to decide and said yes. The guy was the same old friend she once told me about she had known for 2 years. I asked her that if anything could be done now and she said no because her relatives had come to know about this and more than that her parents are very happy for her and she just can't take it away from them. When I asked her about all the time we spent together she told me that was just friendship from her side. It's been month now and we're still talking as she told me that doesn't want to lose a good friend like me. So just for sake of it I'm talking with her ( I know I'm kind of sick, but that's me). Though it hurts me but if she wants me as a friend I'm ready to bear the pain.
POINT OF CONFUSION
The thing that is killing me from inside is that she still want me to talk like I used to but that's not possible for me now. I can't be the same for her. We still go out. She lie to her parents, to her fiancée just to spend sometime with me and I find that a bit odd. But I know one thing for sure she's good at heart. She often discusses some matters to me that she even don't share with her fiancée and or any other female friend. She says me that she'll never forget me for the respect I give to her, for care I show for her for how much I like her. She even asked a very stupid question that if after her marriage she had a fight with her husband and she comes back and then asks me to marry her, will I? I was shocked. She still says she miss me, want to see me, hear me etc. This is driving me crazy now. She's getting engaged after two days and yesterday she went out with me. She still wants to see me after her engagement. She's not told her fiancée about me at all. She even wants to continue contact with me after the marriage. I'm so confused on this. Is it that she likes me but she doesn't know it yet or she's just using me? She often fights with her fiancée and cry though she seems happy with her engagement decision. She even told me that she'd be jealous of girl that would marry me which should be opposite in this case. If I don't care for her like I did before she says I'm rude I've changed and won't talk to me (which is hard for me to see) but when I care like I did earlier but sometimes it hurts me as why I'm doing this I cry and then she asks me why're you crying? I really don't know what to do? I don't want to lose her. Do I still stand a chance? What should I do to know what's running inside her mind? Is it she likes me and she's not realizing it? What should I do, how should I approach? Please help me or I'll go nuts! HELP
1 more thing... whenever I force her to tell the truth she either disconnects the phone or when we're together she changes the topic
POINT OF CONFUSION
The thing that is killing me from inside is that she still want me to talk like I used to but that's not possible for me now. I can't be the same for her. We still go out. She lie to her parents, to her fiancée just to spend sometime with me and I find that a bit odd. But I know one thing for sure she's good at heart. She often discusses some matters to me that she even don't share with her fiancée and or any other female friend. She says me that she'll never forget me for the respect I give to her, for care I show for her for how much I like her. She even asked a very stupid question that if after her marriage she had a fight with her husband and she comes back and then asks me to marry her, will I? I was shocked. She still says she miss me, want to see me, hear me etc. This is driving me crazy now. She's getting engaged after two days and yesterday she went out with me. She still wants to see me after her engagement. She's not told her fiancée about me at all. She even wants to continue contact with me after the marriage. I'm so confused on this. Is it that she likes me but she doesn't know it yet or she's just using me? She often fights with her fiancée and cry though she seems happy with her engagement decision. She even told me that she'd be jealous of girl that would marry me which should be opposite in this case. If I don't care for her like I did before she says I'm rude I've changed and won't talk to me (which is hard for me to see) but when I care like I did earlier but sometimes it hurts me as why I'm doing this I cry and then she asks me why're you crying? I really don't know what to do? I don't want to lose her. Do I still stand a chance? What should I do to know what's running inside her mind? Is it she likes me and she's not realizing it? What should I do, how should I approach? Please help me or I'll go nuts! HELP
1 more thing... whenever I force her to tell the truth she either disconnects the phone or when we're together she changes the topic