As the subject says, would I be qualified such a thing for having fetishes that are included in the grand bowl of BDSM?

Do you care?
Anyone who does anything outside the normal average, sexual or otherwise, will be considered a freak by some people.
Heck half my friends and family call me a witch and a perv - meant with love from these people I might add - just because I have some unusual interests in life and am pretty open minded about,. well most things. Not a very English trait. No idea what the status quo is in Portugal.

If you are happy and it's not affecting your life negatively then who cares what other people would label it. If on the other hand,if it is taking over your life in a negative way then maybe you do need to look at that.

So are you happy with it?

EVERYONE is a freak when it comes to sex.

Sorry, but it's true.

As long as you find someone that works well with you in the bedroom, who CARES?

As the subject says, would I be qualified such a thing for having fetishes that are included in the grand bowl of BDSM?

No, you are not a freak.

We all have our fetishes. I agree with the first response. Who cares what people think. It's what makes you happy.

Have fun with it, and enjoy.

This counter question was asked in every response so far: who cares?

I don't see the point of this question.

Am I a freak? Hello J:

Yeah... Ain't it great?

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This counter question was asked in every response so far: who cares?

I don't see the point of this question.



It's a legit question. Perhaps he feels as if heis doing something wrong. Maybe he feels as if he is the only one out of the people that he knows who likes this. OR maybe he shared his feelings with someone and that person made him feel uneasy about it.

For example, I once confided in a close friend about a fetish of mine, (which is kind of a rare one) and after I told her, she said "Omg! what are you thinking?" She made me feel, well... like a freak.

In the end, I didn't and still don't care what people think, but he obviously does if he is asking us this question.

Depends on exactly what your fetish is.


But odds are strong you aren't.

Even the very best sexual relationship I've ever had was with a woman who didn't match my likes and needs and wants step for step... so... if we aren't looking for perfect overlap, then when is it OK to say this is a good match but that isn't? Hard to know and impossible for others to tell you.

There are times when you might "accept" a lover who doesn't fulfill all of your desires and are content. And there are times when you need to explore.

My rule for me... and this is just for me... is that anything "additional" to me being inside that lover and in the moment just with her... well, it's a prop. A crutch.

And that does NOT mean its bad.

It means that while I love sex outdoors and love the cool night air pressing down on bare skin... well, I don't want to depend on that all the time for me to find pleasure in sex.

While I like voyeurism... role playing... while I love certain routines and patterns and rhythms... I, again, prefer to try to keep my mind open to all sorts of possibilities and not narrowly focused too much on one way to reach mental and physical arousal.

In time... most of us narrow our focus some. It happens with familiarity. New discovery. We are comforted by familiar things and we all have favorites.

But when a girl I was with absolutely loved giving oral all the time... I liked it, but missed intercourse. Same with the reverse. So... you aren't wrong for liking bdsm.

But it might limit the pool of potential partners if that is all that lets you release. That doesn't doom you to anything... it just means the more "specialized" you are, the more lovers won't always meet your desires.