Hi, I met a guy after a party I had not attended and ended up having great sex with him. Because we both had a great time, he called me the following day and invited me to his place where we hit it off again, the sex was more intimate than before. We kept communicating on phone for one week, then met again and still had great sex. Its been 2 weeks since our communication started to break. For the past week he has not called me at all. I think am starting to like him a lot. Should I call him?

Aishamedi,

Answer to your question is--NO. Do not call him. If he wanted to pursue this to any level other then SEX, he would have stayed in continuous contact. He only called when he wanted a bootie call. He obviously already got a feeling that you might want to have an actual relationship, so stopped calling.

Once an encounter is taken to just a sexual one, it is very difficult to progress to a true boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Don't appear to be desperate, just move on with your life. Good luck

You really screwed up by having sex with him before you even got to know him.

Don't bother calling - he already got all he wanted from you.

No, don't call him. He has obviously found someone else to have great sex with.
If he happens to get an itch and calls you, don't respond.
You are a booty call, nothing more. Do act desperate to be more, it's not attractive.
Your relationship was established with the first encounter.

Wow. Don't you at least demand dinner or flowers or something before you scre* a complete stranger? Are you in a country where you are insured in case of falling ill because of a sexually transmittted disease, or have some sort of income, if the free sex to strangers breaks the bank?

You really get here, what you deserve. You sleep with a total stranger, and wonder why he doesn't call. He doesn't call because you slept with a complete stranger (him), and when you start to expect more, which is putting the cart before the horse, he dials out. This confuses you?

Every time you decided to sc*ew this stranger, you did so of your own free will. We arent' talking roofies and date rape here, we are talking about you being a fully cognizant, functioning individual, making a choice. I hope that you aren't pregnant. I pitty a child brought into this world under these circumstances. If you cannot even control your sexual urges, well... do you have any personal standards? Any insight into why you need to stoop so low, so fast, and keep repeating the same mistake over and over?

I don't know how to advise you, because you don't even get why you shouldn't be screwing* complete strangers, for all the obvious reasons, most of which have already been said.

So, let's just say, perhaps counselling might help you establish standards for yourself; and you can benefit from someone who can explain better than I can, why you shouldn't be doing what you are doing.

In the meanwhile, the next time you meet a man you are attracted to, try not to take your clothes off right away, and maybe shoot for a movie and a box of chocolates first.

I am sorry to inform you that what you are having right now is a booty call. And whether the sex is great or not, sex has the ability to make a person feel certain emotions, but they are not real. You might like him for whatever reason but it seems to me, at least from what you have told us, that he really isn't looking for anything more. And if he cut conversation when you are trying to talk on an everyday basis is probably because he feels like you are getting attached, and if he has the **** buddy mentality in his mind, that is a problem. No one like to have another person latched onto them. So the answer is NO, do not call him back, in fact unless you are looking to hook up, don't ever call him again. It doesn't sound promising at all, and you don't really seem to be missing out on anything that great. Back off while you still can and make sure that if something serious is what you are looking for then be serious about it, and don't hand out your body, because guys will take that as a sign that all you really want is a sexual relationship, not an emotional one.

Good Luck,

Javi

Respect yourself, and others will also respect you.

Thanks for the advice every one.

You were so right. Now he is totally silence after the last call he made were we talked for almost an hour. With your advice, I feel its not worth it, I am moving on.

Good girl!

Sorry you didn't like my opinion and gave me a red mark for it, but I think you've found out there was more truth to it than you imagined originally.

Good luck with moving on. Try to show some respect for yourself next time and move a little slower.