So this Saturday my friend and I were meant to go out together while our partners go watch boxing..
I told her I would like to go this place were there are a few bars to chose from which is also close to the bar our men are watching the boxing, as we all planned to catch up once the boxing is over...

Last night she told me she does not want to go there as it will be boring.. I told her we have my car so we can leave whenever if it's that boring!
( this couple of friends of our are nice people - but what annoys me and my husband about them is that its usually always their choice of where to go out and if they don't like it they simply don't go)

So to put my foot down for once I told her - well id like to go there, you are more than welcome to join me..
She answered by saying - NO I don't want to go there, don't worry, I go elsewhere with my work mates

(So she basically ditched me because she doesn't want to go there)

NOw her boyfriend said he is starting some antibiotics so won't be going out after all to watch boxing...

So my husband and I made our own plans.. to go for meal, a few drinks and then go see the last boxing game and then see where the night takes us!

That's fine to do that right.. after all she ditched me?

But we also have a feeling that her boyfriend will end up going out after all (as we don't believe his story of antibiotics) and he will expect my husband to go watch boxing with alone (boys night - original plan) and she will expect me to go with her...

MY MAIN QUESTION IS - my husband have every right to stick to our new plan yes?

Seriously? If he told your husband that he isn't going out because of him starting "anti-biotics" then that allows your husband to make new plans. Same with the girl. She said NO which entitles you to make new plans.

Believe me, don't live your lives, as a couple, trying to please others. Both of the people in question backed out on the original plan therefore entitling you to change plans accordingly.

Its true what you are saying... they are both so nice but to make plans with them it turns out to be an anxious event!

They also like to do things seperatly a lot where my husband and I not so much.. we believe in our own time.. but wknds are for us to enjoy together!

But we both have a gut feeling that the both gave us these excuses because he wants a boys night and she a girls night..

Sadface,

Sounds like their loss. I wouldn't change those plans for those selfish friends. They are grown adults and need to understand that they cannot always have it their way, friendship is a give and take relationship. That wife sounds like a spoiled rotten brat wanting her way or the highway, well let her play on the highway.

Besides I think your plans with your husband sound GREAT!!

Sounds like their loss. I wouldn't change those plans for those selfish friends. They are grown adults and need to understand that they cannot always have it their way, friendship is a give and take relationship. That wife sounds like a spoiled rotten brat wanting her way or the highway, well let her play on the highway.

THANK YOU :)

My husband and I are sticking to our NEW plan...
They can both be a little childish.. even to plan something with them.. to me turns into a headache.. and they like to do things apart from each other which we don't like all the time!

In fact I told her (before I made new plans with my husband) that I may just opt to stay in.. Seeing as she don't want to go where I wish to go and my husband wants to watch all the boxing.. she basically ignored that comment of mine.. checky right?

OHHH and he has NOT started his antibiotics YET!

UPDATE - So my friend just rang! Said he is feeling better but not sure he should go out. He asked what were doing & I said we doing smthin 4 sure as d original plan got cancelled & she made her own plans. He askd her & she said no she hasn't got plans! LOL...

Oh My God.. I knew it... she came to speak to me on skype abuot tonight - he is going to watch boxing and she is going out but told me I don't want to go to the place you want to go!

This couple doesn't act like they have any idea what a true friendship is. Especially her, I think she might be wearing the pants in that relationship, and he just goes along with her to keep peace. I guess my thing would be if she is just going to continue this kind of behavior what is the point of even trying to continue any type of friendship, beside simply acquantences. You don't usually go and do things with that kinds of relationship. Besides this woman tends to lie just to get her way.

I heard she even rang a girl she don't particularly like.. just so she goes out where she wants too.
Her boyfriend himself asked her to join us and she said NO!
Oh well.. I had fun with the guys watching boxing.. had a laugh!

Wow, sounds like you had great time, too bad you not from around here, I sure the heck would have went with you!! Don't worry at my age, I always make sure my depends are changed before going out!! hehehe

Hahah! Good one :P