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CrazyKid112
Nov 10, 2010, 02:34 PM
Hi,
Proper in love with my boyfriend but he says I don't care, I don't listen, and don't love him he is currently ignoring me becos' I upset him, he is questioning me and saying I know you don't want to go out with me so just say it. Apparently I lie to him but I recall no lying to him in the past. I said I would change my ways (which I admit I do need to)
He's saying to me prove that you will change and asking me how I can prove it?
I can't bare losing him again! It would shatter me!
I need to prove I can change!
How do I do it - I've tried everything!
Urgent-please help.

Eileen G
Nov 10, 2010, 04:50 PM
I'm sorry to say this, but you need to get out of this relationship. You have told him the truth, and he doesn't believe you. Proving you are telling the truth doesn't change the fact that he doesn't believe you, and doesn't trust you.

Besides, how can he say you don't love him? No-one can know what you feel except you.

This is almost certainly his problem, not yours. He had issues about trusting people, but he needs to deal with those issues before he can have a good relationship with any girl.

Find someone who automatically assumes that whatever you say is the truth, and would need proof to believe you are lying, not the other way around. Imagine being married to someone who automatically assumed that you lied to him. You would have no peace or comfort or pleasure.

ironhide262
Nov 10, 2010, 09:56 PM
Apparently I lie to him but I recall no lying to him in the past. I said I would change my ways (which I admit I do need to)

I don't understand this statement... what do you admit you need to change? Did you lie to him or not. But, in any case he should give you a chance to make it up to him.

Otherwise I agree with Eileen... seems like this guy is messing with your head or has major trust issues... may be time to just move on.