my daughter is so violent that I need to relenquish custody of her to the state before serious harm comes to me and my other children. Her father and I are not together. He lives in tx. And is in and out {currently in} prison. She has never met him. He has never contacted her and that's prob. A good thing. She is 15 and is constantly in trouble. She displays sociopathic behaviors. She has been in trouble with the law. Numerous school infractions, and sexual acting out. She is highly manipulative and plays the role of the victim all the while she is the abuser. She tends to manipulate her way out of serious trouble but was arrested recently for planning to microwave my cat and blow my other kids and I up in our home. She even stashed items necessary to do so but insists she just had the thought but wasn't really going to do it. She has attempted to poison me several times. We don't allow her to cook, cannot set out drinks down unsupervised... we live totally under her control and are constantly paranoid she is trying to hurt us. I know this sounds crazy, but many agencies have been involved and seem to not want to deal with it. She has called child servcs on me many times and they never find me to be abusive or unfit in any way whatsoever. They find her allegations to be false. She has been hospitalized over 30 times in the last 2 yrs for homicidal/suicidal ideation. She has severe attention seeking behaviors. She is currently under investigation by child svcs for sexually abusing an 11 yr old girl. They are not sure if she will be officially charged with anyting since she is a minor. Please help us. I really hate to give up custody but I do have other kids to protect. One is even special needs. Please tell me what I need to do. I am on disability and am partially able to work but have not been able to because of the many trips we must make to transport her to facilities across the state and even out of state. We have even lost everything of any value that we own due to this so finances are a big deal. I need low cost \free help.

If she was recently arrested for trying to nuke the cat and blow up your home with you in it I'd wait until she is up for sentencing and either write a long letter to the Judge or speaking privately with the prosecutor about her. She needs to be where she can't harm other people (including herself). She may be declared insane or just incorrigible and sent to a reformatory until she turns 18. You definitely need help with her getting her out of your home legally.

Have you gone down to the Social Security office and signed your kids up to get their monthly benefit check since you did say you were on Disability? If not, then please do as this added income will definitely help you and your family financially.

Yes, my son does get a check but she is inpatient constantly and ssi requires her to be home to apply. As long as a person is hospitalized or incarcerated for 30 days or more you are not eligible. This is the problem, she is never home more than 4 or 5 days before she is inpatient again. As far as the courts, she already went and they released her on basis of... a treatment facility!. when she gets out, she will b on probation for 6 mo. That is all. The chief of police won't help because he feels she is the victim of the abuse and refuses to see the evidence. I had a child svcs worker say that I can go the route of abandonment because I have given more than reasonable effort to help her and no criminal charges will be filed. My son will be 18 on new years and jan 8th is when they plan on sending her home. The worker said this won't affect him even though he has mild mental retardation because he is in no danger of abuse or neglect. She wants to avoid removing him from the home because he is doing well. I just pray she is correct. I hate to go this route, but laws protect the young and the old... not the between! Is this a good route?

Possibly your area just might be broke and can't afford sending her where she can get help other than the revolving door of "treatment" which obviously does not work.

Talk to the social service worker and see if you can't award her to the state and you won't have to live in fear of your life or your son's life. This girl is mentally ill and staying in your home is not a good idea as she could possibly end up doing you in as well as your son. If you are that afraid of her then you need to do something about this before he comes home in January.

I know this is a harsh reality but you must make a decision soon on her as she is not going to change and you are just fooling yourself that she may change. Also, this would be a better solution for her versus you just kicked her out of the house into the street where she could possibly end up killing someone or someone murdering her. You must face reality here and let your head do the deciding and not your heart.

That's what I am trying to do but no one will tell me how to do it w/o losing my son or facing child abuse charges. If I just abandon her by not picking her up from this facility, I have been told I should be OK legally... my fear is that I will do this and will suffer legally for it. Its not as if I haven't tried to help her and be a good mom, it's that I am not capable of helping her. I AM going to relenquish her, I just need help knowing what the laws are so the remainder of my family stays in tact!. do you know what would come of me if I just leave her in the treatment facility?

I also do apreciate your advice and support... thanks!