My girlfriend and I have been dating almost 3 years now. When we first started dating we always had sex. She wasn't on birth control or anything. I think it was just the new expeirence for us. The 2 months in to our relaltionship she got on birth control and she wanted sex, she even wore me out. Then it slowly started going down hill... She has been on 3 or 4 different birth controls and now she is off all together. She says she can't get tuned on. Its really making me feel bad because I feel we are missing a part of our relationship because she doesn't want to have sex. I am a very sexual person and she isn't. She is the first girl I have been with, she was with one other guy and they had sex one time. She doesn't like me going down on her, fingering her or trying new postions. I ust don't know any more... help?

My girlfriend and I have been dating almost 3 years now. When we first started dating we always had sex. She wasnt on birth control or anything. I think it was just the new expeirence for us. The 2 months in to our relaltionship she got on birth control and she wanted sex, she even wore me out. Then it slowly started going down hill...She has been on 3 or 4 different birth controls and now she is off all together. she says she can't get tuned on. its really making me feel bad because i feel we are missing a part of our relationship because she doesnt want to have sex. I am a very sexual person and she isnt. she is the first girl i have been with, she was with one other guy and they had sex one time. she doesnt like me going down on her, fingering her or trying new postions. i ust dont know any more....help?

How old are the both of you?

We are 20

I hate to say this but I'm a girl and if she started lovein sex now she doesn't want it maybe it is someone else and maybe it could be she just want to take a break from sex for a little while. Things will get better

You forgot where the On/Off switch was on that model?






Ok jokes aside, maybe she woke up to the fact that was the point, subject... and end to all dates. And she got tired of being a sperm receptacle.

And she just doesn't have the nerve to say it.

And yes... a YOUNG guys habit of tunnel vision when it comes to getting sex has killed far more relationships than it has ever helped in the history of mankind.


Seriously... what percentage of your dates involved anything BUT getting her into bed and the act... rather than other things. I'll bet it's a rather large number and not a very small percentage.