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ngrrt
Nov 7, 2010, 03:07 AM
I'm in a bad situation... I don't know who to turn to and no one will help out... im staying with my family... because they are renovating my house--they did it suddenly and sort of kicked me out. I had to go stay with them. They have been abusive to me the whole time.. its been a bad environment. What's scaring me is the possibility that my mother might be doing something to my cats... she is a sociopath... and has hurt them before in a different way--just to get back at me... my cats have been exhibiting a weird and severe dermatitis- some is near one's eye... im sure dermatitis isn't something that can be done intentionally by another person... but I suspected possible poisoning or doing 'something' to them... who knows really... I think my mother is capable of anything... and once or twice she fed them a weird looking 'food'... its the food that I feed to them but when she does it it looks old... and as if its stale or something is wrong with it... a canned food.. one day she came to my room a day after she freaked out over something and put it outside my door--i found it odd she did it the 4th day I was there seemingly the day after she was upset or freaking out about nothing... what I mean is it was out of the ordinary behavior... I went out of town recently... my mother accused me of all sorts of things and began revealing that she read things I wrote on a blog.. and quoting those things... I don't know how she had access to it. She claimed I was visiting my ex boyfriend, and told me she would get a restraining order against him if I was talking to him... she didn't believe anything I said and kept calling me a liar. She wanted to 'talk to the person' who I said I stayed with... she is nuts and controlling... treats me like a teenager when I'm 31... she fed my cats the same weird food and noticed it when I got back... I don't have money for a long term hotel right now but my mother has access to money that is mine for checks she legally stole form me--i can't do anything about it right now because I'm trying to move back into my house and am scared it might trigger a lot of things and would from my parents... what I'm asking is... my mother has already committed forgery... of money that is mine.. to where I can't stay at a hotel to protect myself from their abuse or take my pets... and have nowhere to go... and I suspect a minor possibility that she might be hurting my animals... they've never had this condition before and I find it so odd they got it like... 1 week after staying here or even sooner... it may not be that... it could be just a real condition of course... but I don't trust her with my pets here... and didn't even prior to coming here... right now the so-called 'renovations' are at a halt and they're being prolonged... or going to take longer than 2-3 weeks.. though they were supposed to be done by now... I'm trying to get help on two things..

1. how to get access to that money that is mine... without causing a huge family rift... or legal troubles right now..

2. how to protect my pets... in case she might be doing something... its hard because she could put things in their food.. could be doing anything... I've learned from experience a sociopath is capable of various types of poisoning and their abuse is severe and cruel... and very discreet and something you wouldn't be able to find or notice of course...

I have no desire to call anyone but I'm just scared... I have nowhere to go and my family's abuse is getting worse.. my psychotic mother is getting more controlling and abusive... and her behavior is getting more drastic... and I know she is capable of almost anything... and a sick malicious mentally sick person... just because I went out of town she flipped out... and became really abusive and weird... and wanted to make sure my reality was hell and continues to do just this... no one believes me because people never stand up against people who do bad things it seems and just justify them and say "oh.. she wouldn't do that"... but that's how sociopaths get away with anything and everything... just confused...

ngrrt
Nov 7, 2010, 03:16 AM
Part of the questions are... is there any agency that can help a person... or who a person can turn to in a situation like that.. aside from a lawyer... an advocacy or something... or groups that help people... for people who have no one to turn to and need help in these types of situations.. many years ago I was staying with my parents and they were so abusive I called dcf... but DCF just listened to my mother and ignored me... and that was it... and she was being really abusive to me... my parents are my only 'support' right now... and I can't risk losing it immediately only when I can move out of their house the place that's getting renovated and get my own place...