I was liviing with my sons father and he went to the hospital and signed his name on the birth certificate. We went home and about 2 weeks his father wouldn't let me pick him up even if he was crying. He would threaten me if I would try to get him and say I would spoil him and he will not have a spoiled kid. He would hit the crib and tell my son (2 weeks old at the time) to shut up and be quiet. Mad the baby was still crying in his crib he left and I moved out while he was gone cause he wouldn't let me leave while he was there. He called and wanted me back not asking about our baby at all just to get back to me. One day he called and wanted to see the baby so I met him somewhere he held the baby and wanted to talk about getting back together I said no and wouldn't let me get the my son back. He finally did called a couple times for the same reason. My son is now 17 months and he has not seen him at all since he was 1mth old. He has not ever given me any kind of financial support either.

Hello mom:

Take him to family court. You'll get child support and he'll get what he gets. But, if he doesn't come around, taking his rights away won't change anything, even if you could - and you can't...

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If I read this right, it has been 16 months since you and/or your son has not seen him.

Why are you still afraid.

My take on this is that he was a controlling man before you decided to have a baby with him. After the baby came along, he used the baby to control you. By keeping you 'in your place' with what surely would have become physical violence (if it hadn't happened already), he really hit the control hammer well by also threatening your newborn.

He was not counting on you having enough sense to get out.

But even after all this time, you are still afraid.

If he has or had been to his own lawyer and fighting a custody battle, while at the same time paying support, I can see why you would be concerned.

But, by not providing for his child, not making an attempt to share custody or even have visitation, he has already essentially terminated 'his rights' to the child, by his own choice. All the more reason to think that if he could not control you, by controlling the child (because you left), then why bother at all.

He has most likely moved onto his next victim.

The only thing you can do, is protect yourself, and your baby, legally. Establish custody, and go after him for child support. See assistance with social services and discuss your unwillingness to do so, because you are afraid of the repercussions if you do. Get good solid advice on what do do, and how to do it.

If not for yourself, for your baby.

Most likely no you can not terminate his rights, you do need to set up custody and child visits and also child support from the court.

Unless you went to court and got a court ordered child support he does not even owe any support yet.

If you can prove his anger issues you may get the court to order counseling, anger management or supervised visits for him