I'm a 16 year old, and as my previous posts say about me, I've been dumped, and felt alone, and had no friends etc.. Now some time has passed, I've found friends, I managed not to think about my ex every single minute.. but I still can't seem to heel. It's like I'm making so much fuss about it, but to me this relationship had meant a lot!
My ex seemed that he has already moved on and found someone new, unlike me, who am still clinging to the past and hating myself for trusting him and that at one point I thought he was my everything. But I accept that maybe this has happened for a reason – to learn from it
But.. I can't find my inner self, it's like I lost myself on the way to this miserable state I am in. all I see around me are; either happy couples, or carefree singles who get dates whenever they want (or even more than they want!), and I'm the one who is left out alone with miserable thoughts, with nobody to think about except those who were in the past, who I've realised can never be in my future/present.
I really want to have fun and forget about my past for a while, but I can’t, no dates, and no motivation from myself to make more friends either
I succeeded in staying happy for about a week or two, but now I'm back to where I've started. I've also gained more weight due to my continuously over-eating when I was sad or just bored
It’s like, one minute I’m ready to get back on track and start living a relaxed and happy life and in another I wish I could hide from everyone because I feel ashamed of all my actions and because of my loneliness and feel that there is nobody for me
.. any help is really appreciated!

Think back to what you did before when you and your boyfriend were dating. Like general every night stuff. Try and put yourself into a similar schedule to before your boyfriend and you got serious (change things you don't like about what you did).
But one thing I would say is to not be too dedicated. Not saying it's bad to feel sorry, just know that perhaps there was a misunderstanding on how you two wanted the relationship to go. Perhaps he wanted more space, but just didn't know how to say it. Maybe not, but possibly. Realize there's more people out there than just him. Surround yourself w/ppl that love you. Your sad because your going from very happy to normal, but knowing what it feels like to have had something but you can't have it, and there isn't much you can do. So you should replace him with something someone that is relaxing [NOT DRUGS OR ALCOHOL] and productive, and will lead to new paths. Keep yourself busy, and only allow free time for yourself when your moderately happy. Keep busy when your sad (works for most people not all) and you won't have too much time to think about it. And besides, it will make you more confident, because you are moving on and doing things he isn't.
You should focus your emotions into say running, and this will quickly lose your gained weight.

Hey there...
I'm so sorry for what's been happening to you. I know how you feel... this break up thing is horrible. It is so painful and it seems like you will never move on though you know its wrong. What you've just done, in seeking help is the first step to rescue yourself.
You need to love yourself. Yes, love who you are. You can't face the world or be happy if you hate the body you are living in. And as you've just said; it's a lesson, then learn from it. Don't cry that its over, smile that it happened.
I am depressed at the very moment, but I've decided to wake up for myself.
Do stuff that you feel very absorbed in, not what will take your mind off things; like drawing, learning a new musical instrument or singing or even writing songs. I recommend you do physical stuff - like go to the gym or do yoga or aerobics as its good for your health physically and mentally. Join some club - whether it's a school club or anything else- and you'll meet better people. You could go shopping, treat yourself to some ice cream and by some of your favorite music - you don't always have to hangout with people.

Save yourself before its too late. If your ex found someone else, then good for them and for you. You'll one day find someone who appreciates who you are. Enjoy being single for the moment, and take the advantage of it.
If you have someone you trust, like a neighbor, your mum or aunt then talk it out.
If you think its necessary, go to a psychiatrist its really helpful I promise you.

It's okay in the end, if its not okay, then its not the end :)
Cheer up x

Hi mel, I understand how are you feeling right now. But rest assure, this feeling that is clinging on you will soon fade away. You may try to go and play some outdoor sport like basket ball? And you will shrink away the feeling you are having. Since she is having a better life than you now... the best cure for love breakup is to get another relationship. Anyway you ex is living better, is moving on. So try to move on better than hers by having another relationship ;) trust me .

Thanks for helping out :)
Currently I ended up lonlier than I ever thought I could get, but I am hoping I would get this situation better soon. I will try to be more friendly to strangers maybe a friendship could grow or something.

Thanks again :)