so I've been dating this girl for the past 2 1/2 yrs. We loved each other very much. I was not in a good place financially and moved into her parents house. This is when things went downhill. We separated on a sort of mutual level. Its been 6 months and now we are talking again. I invited her over after texting for a few days so we could talk. I have heard she has been seeing this guy from her work. When I asked her about it she said that they weren't dating and he knew that and that it wasn't the same as when I hugged you. So we've been shooting text randomly this week. We decided to hang out last night. She came over everything was going good. She was laying on me we're chit chatting like old times. I started to give her a massage, one thing leads to another. We start getting hot n heavy (foreplay) I start kissing her neck and all over her body and just as I was about to whip it out she sort of got weird and said we were moving too fast. So she got dressed and we sat and talked for a minute smoked a bowl and she went home leaving my mind to race about what I did and how to fix it. I truly love this girl and don't want to screw up again but at the same time does this have something to do with the other guy?

Quit playing games. Tell her how you feel, leave the ball on her side of the court and leave her be.

In other words, tell her that you want to pursue a relationship with her, but if she doesn't want the same thing, then you're better off going your separate ways. You don't want to have her continually play with your mind and lead you on. Put your foot down.

And maybe you should take it slow this time around...