We were together for 11yrs. And have 2 kids. We broke up in Feb. Why does this bother me? I am hurt, frustrated, confused... Me and my kids are a wreck :(

Sorry you are going through this, it has to be devastating. Its important that you keep working to separate what he is doing, and what you are doing for yourself, and your family. That means staying strong to help your kids through this. Its going to be hard to think logically when your hurting so bad, but for your kids, you must. And try to do something good for your own spirits as well.

I would imagine you are hurting. This is quite a blow, but you must try and put this aside for your sanity so you can take care of your kids.
Find things you enjoy. Do something special for yourself.

You frustrated because this is something you have absolutely NO control over. I know exactly how your feeling, and Iam still having trouble getting over my relationship. I have had to come to the relization the biggest thing to get over is that I had no say in what happened--NONE. When you cannot even protect yourself from such a painful situation you feel very vunerable. That is an emotion is that is very hard to come to grips with.

I had to get myself together for my son, and that did help in the beginning to get my grief under control. This will take time, and unfortunately there will be days that you feel this devastation will never get better.

I will tell you, it does get better. Take the time to read some of the other post. Advice given on those will also help you. Keep us posted and keep strong for your children.