I met a guy who got out of a 2 year relationship and then me and him met and we started to date and whatever but during or dates his ex girlfriend would call or send him a message. Then me and him got really close and he started telling me everything he would not lie to me. Then he asked me to be his girlfriend I said yes... then also while we were going out she would still call and send messages and go to his house and say she is going toi see his sister when she is actualla going to see him. So I got really annoyed of her and pissed and jealous. After awhile he admitted to me that he still loves his ex-girlfriend and there is still a part of him for her. And I said that it was sort of okay because they were together for along time. Then me and him broke up, but we would still see each other. He told me that he doesn't know who to pick its so hard for him. So me and him stayed friends but really really close friends as if we were still going out. 3 weeks ago he told me he might go back to his ex-girlfriend to see if its love or time between them, but even though he told me that I stayed next to him no matter what cause I truly love the guy. A week ago he got back with his ex but me and him would still see each other... currently two days ago he told me that " We can't see each other anymore only once a week, only because his ex wants that... and Im not supposed to send him messages. I told him okay, but its so hard for me, I want him back I really love him. But I don't know if he really loves me... I don't know if I should still stay waiting... or what should I do. What am I supposed to do. HELP PLEASE

To be blunt, you're being used. Stop letting him use you and play you as the fool.

Why would you even consider settling on seeing him once a week while he's with another woman? You may consider it to be love and patience, but I consider it to be foolish. Can't you see that he's cheating on her when he's with you?

You are much better than that and deserve to be treated with true love and respect. You need to "woman up", stand tall, dust yourself off, and break it off totally with him. You need to go No Contact with him and move on.

Leave Him ALONE!

He loves her more than he loves you. If he loved you, he would be with you. He is only keeping you around in case things do not work out with his ex... you are the back up plan. Why would you want to be a back up plan?

He knew he wanted to be back with her from the start. He was playing you from the start. Do not wait on him... you will only further your heartbreak.

Why are you letting him be a player?


I want him back I really love him. But I don't know if he really loves me...
You never had him, he was using you to make her jealous.[

I don't know if I should still stay waiting...
Are you crazy, wait for what? Her to let player boy go.

or what should I do. What am I supposed to do.
You keep him out of all parts of your life, and keep your dignity, and self respect. No body goes for that once a week player crap.

Where is pride, and where is your common sense.

All the while he was with you, he was also with her, if even only via text and regular communication (and probably more... ). Why did you not see that he was not available then. As long as he had the need and the desire to remain close to his so-called 'ex', you were the third person in the relationship- the odd man out so to speak, second choice, the standby, the hanger on, the backup plan.

And you still are.

Find your dignity and tell him to buzz off. You should not be in second place in a relationship with anyone, let alone a so-called boyfriend who doesn't know which end is up and can't make up his own mind what he wants.

As long as she is front and centre, you are not. As long as he puts her needs ahead of yours, yours will never be met. As long as he keeps you hanging, you compromise your principles, your pride and yourself respect.

Tell yourself enough is enough of this flake already.

Find someone who is available.