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jojostar24
Oct 31, 2010, 12:32 PM
My girlfriend broke up with me back in May of 2010 after two years.
She got in a car wreck in November 2009 and didn't finish recovery after 5 months.
Now... the whole 5 months she was in recovery at her parents house until she finally came back home.
Through the time she was away, she gave me a very hard time.
Instead of me being supportive, and keeping her strong
I was more emotional bothered how she was acting towards me that cause us to argue a lot at that time.
We never had any major issues in our relationship, that I was aware of whatsoever.
She told me how much she love me, and couldn't wait to get back home.
Wrote me long messages on " FACEBOOK " and to us back to how things you to do.
Through all that, the day she get home, she break up with me.
To sum it up, a few days later I witness her at her job dating some new guy.

Now... I don't why and what between us because she never gave me a reason
Other then I hurt her, and when she needed me doing her recovery all I did was fight with her.
But, she was at fault as much was I was.
Because I felt like she was no longer my girlfriend, but an enemy.
I'm with someone, who I feel I love to death but not getting it back in return.
So she took it on herself, instead of coming to me about our problems
She reach out to friends and family, and everything blew right out after that.
I feel she was pressured to break up with me...
Everyone make mistakes, and I slipped one time and everyone in her life
Did nothing but drag my name through the mud and put thoughts in her head about me after two years.

talaniman
Oct 31, 2010, 01:08 PM
Where you paying attention or what. She recovers at her parents house, you start arguing for whatever reason, and can't see anything wrong for 5 months? She gets home and see starts dating another guy after she breaks up with you?

Did she go back home after the break up, or is she still staying with YOU? Somebody has to go, as this has been over a long time, for whatever reason, but you just found out for sure.

help0220
Nov 3, 2010, 07:36 PM
From a woman's perspective, she's already moved on, for whatever reason.

kp2171
Nov 3, 2010, 07:57 PM
You seem to really be reaching to make this her fault.

k.

Well... doesn't matter how much time you spent together. Time invested does not indicate a healthy relationship. Period.

And usually when one person breaks up and then starts dating soon... that person has been thinking about a break longer than the person who is upset. It happens. A lot.

It does not matter if she is alone or with someone else. It seems like it does, but it doesn't. Your relationship was for a time and not for all time. Happens ALL the time.

So she is her own independent woman. She gets to date who she wants. And it isn't you.

Sucks to be you. I've been there. It sucks. And hurts. Until it gets boring enough you just refuse to be in this place.

She is not wrong for stepping back. It is her right.

You are not wrong for hurting. I lost Big Loves after six years and ten years. I get it. Two years are a fraction of the time I spent on those relationships.

Doesn't matter. Two weeks. Two months. Two years. Two decades. Relationships change. Sometimes it can change and both partners can stay close. Often, the change translates into a move apart.

Oops happens.