So I had a four month relationship with this girl that I thought was everything to me. She's 20 and I'm 19. During our relationship she was always giving me reasons to doubt her. She was OCD with deleting her text messages and always told me about how her ex was always trying to get a hold of her. She would always assure me that I had nothing to worry about and that I was who she loved and wanted to be with me. Well eventually she broke up with me because she felt that I didn't care for her and that I took her for granted. She was also fed up with some bad habits I had. (She hated that I smoked cigarettes and would constantly tell me to quit even though she smoked at work and didn't consider herself addicted.) In a sense she was right... I did take her for granted and it took me some time without talking to her to realize how stupid I was. After the breakup she told me she wanted to be friends. I declined and went no contact for a while. This was hard for me because she comes up to my school to party at a house full of guys so even though we don't talk I always know she's going to be at my school. In that time I focused on bettering myself. I quit smoking and I haven't smoked in 3 weeks now. Started going to the gym again and focusing on my life. Eventually she started texting me again. We met and I told her what I had been up to. Told her I quit smoking and everything else didn't even bring up the relationship.. She didn't have much to say she said nothing was new. After we met she started texting me saying how much she missed me and how she wishes things had worked out and how if I would have changed earlier we would probably still be together. She said she was so proud of me and I was better than ever. It got to the point where she was flirting with me so much that I couldn't take it anymore. I went for it and told her that I was still in love with her. This didn't work out and she said that she just wanted to be good friends. Friends was never what I wanted I just always wanted to be with her. I went no contact again for a couple of days and then she started texting me drunk saying that she's at my school and that I should come see how good she looks and other nonsense. I had just found out that she's now sleeping with one of the guys at the house she always goes to at my school. I found out through a friend who goes to that house to party from time to time. After hearing that I felt so hurt. I told her I knew and that friends was never ever going to be a option... I told her that I can't trust her anymore. I know were not together anymore but she assured me that she would never mess with any of the guys at that house when we were together. She said she wasn't going to bother me anymore and to let her know when I want to be friends and that its up to me to contact her (I don't think she gets the point). I guess I'm about to go no contact again but I'm really just looking for some advice. I still love this girl and can't stop thinking about her every moment of my day. Getting to the point where I don't have the appetite to eat anymore. What do I Do?

You tell her to leave you alone. You don't read or respond to text you don't answer phone calls. You go complete NC. She will soon get the message, but you have to stick to it.

What you do is keep NC and move on with your life without her. She doesn't sound like a girl I would want to be with.

You go NC, but stick to it and do your own thing and find somewhere else to party. You will get hungry again, eventually, and find better things to do than worry about her.

Ignore her drunken text, block her if you can.

I agree with everyone else. Why do you even have to try to explain to her? You're right, she didn't really get the point but she doesn't have to. It's none of your business now. Your only concern should be your own life.

You made the right choice by going NC in the first place, don't break it. Don't answer her texts or calls, don't meet her to talk about anything. Good luck!