My husband asked me for a divorce 2 weeks ago... he says we argue too much and that we are both unhappy and that he is doing this for both of us but he still loves me and always will. He promised me he would try counseling before it came to this but he no longer wants to. I have been staying at my parents house and we have had little contact but when we do talk we talk like nothing happened. He says he wants to go to mediation but wants to wait till I'm ready. I told him I was ready,even though I am not, but then realized he would have family in town for a month and I didn't want either of us to deal with that while they are here so he said it was OK if we wait. I want him to come back so badly. If I give him time and space will he come back?

You say that you argued a lot, but what exactly caused the spats?

Can you provide a little more detail on the relationship as a whole?

How long were you together?

We need some more details in order to try and figure out what's happening.

We have been together for 6 years married for 4. We would argue about money and bills mostly, he likes to spend I don't, other than that it was just little things like who's turn it was to do the dishes. We got married young, I supported him through the military now he seems like he just wants to do his own thing but he says that is not what this is about even though he has been going out with his buddies a lot since he left me.

Dave Ramsey

If he is not willing to work on issues, go to counseling, that meas he does not want to make it work, and that he is not willing to even try. So no I doubt he will come back and if he did, he would expect you to give in completely and would start to use threats of leaving to control you ( very likely)

So you need to go for the attack, go after him, after money, property, everything, file for support, don't be so agreeable and helpful to him, make him figure he has lost you, and see if he even cares.