View Full Version : What to do if my boyfriend has gay lover?
poshnail
Oct 29, 2010, 05:03 AM
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5years.. but just recently he confessed that he has this gay lover who help him financially. They have been seeing each other for 2months and he told me that no sex has happen. What should I do then?stick with situation or get off with it?
Devorameira
Oct 29, 2010, 05:14 AM
Whether it's with a male or female, he's cheating on you, so why would you even want to stay with him?
Have some pride and move on without him.
excon
Oct 29, 2010, 05:38 AM
stick with situation or get off with it??Hello p:
I'd get off with it.
excon
answerme_tender
Oct 29, 2010, 06:51 AM
Sounds like he is having an AFFAIR for financial reward only. So your going to make a decision if you want to stay in a relationship with not only a cheater, but also a prostitute!! Who knows how many times he will have to sell himself sexually for financial gain. Let's hope he doesn't give you any STD's.
talaniman
Oct 29, 2010, 06:56 AM
Having a lover, gay or not implies sex to me. And whether he does it for love, or money, or whatever makes no difference in that case, as its cheating, and prostitution. Time to go, fast as possible. Even if he doesn't have sex he is still using someone for their money don't you think? Hmmm, has he been taking money from you too?
Cat1864
Oct 29, 2010, 08:49 AM
I would surmise that he has limited his definition of 'sex' to only include intercourse as it seems so many people do these days when they don't want to face the truth about their actions. I would bet other favors have been exchanged or at very least promised.
I would then make certain that any mutual business has been or is being resolved so that when I walked out of the relationship I would be able to go No Contact and allow myself to heal.
I wouldn't trust him or anything he says. He has already lied to you for two months by not telling you about his 'sugar daddy' (the other person he is playing games with). I would bet that something happened to cause him to admit his infidelity or he thinks you have the same low morals he apparently does. No sense giving him the chance to add more lies or turn his cheating around on you.
Denziel
Oct 29, 2010, 04:11 PM
GET RID ASAP! Like others have pointed out he is cheating on you for money! Which is weird and kind of creepy!
Fr_Chuck
Oct 29, 2010, 09:05 PM
If they are lovers, there is something going on.
But it is cheating no matter how you look at it, and if he is doing it for money well you know where they is going.
So why are you still with him , why even a question about it