Okay, so what is your issue or question.

I am friends with several people who are gay and guess what, they are just that, friends.

Cool, that means you shouldn't feel threatened.

Is your wife's new friend female and gay?
Is that what your issue is?

Don't leave us hanging on to a vague statement, what's the question?

I'm sorry if I sounded that bad about it or wasn't making my question clear. My issue is that for the ten years we've been married, every thing was o.k. . Up until two years ago, when I had an emergency heart surgery done on me. After that we where happy. Now that this time has gone by, recovering from it has been very complicated, things have been getting pretty nasty, to the point where were sick of each other the majority of the time. Look ill just get to the point. Should I have anything to worry about. I know some male gay fellas from the apartment complex, but every one just said they were gay but didn't really know till one mentioned something about his ex husband. I heard it and it was truly o.k. with me, these fellas were real good people to talk with and very smart. What if its something like the two that make them like each other then they fall for each other. I just don't know what to think. Though the answer for post #4makes sense, after I read it.

So is her friend a gay woman or gay man?
Is your concern that your wife may be gay?

I think its more your problems within the marriage that have you tripping than her friendship with a gay guy. So I gather there are sex problems or is it something more that makes the two of you sick of each other now? What were the complications with your surgery? What meds are you on? Are you disabled because of your heart problems?

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This is cool. She told me I should get on the computer like her and finde some people to talk to, only it was on face book and I really didn't think it was really in my interest. But yah I gues problems within the marrige got me trippin / ran out of

I know thers technical terms and names but don't have them on hand, here goes... oh sorry gota go my bro is honcking out side. Going to help clean mom and dads yard . Get bak to yah soon.

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I think you are just having problems with your marriage.
Why don't you guys do some counseling.
Her friend being gay has nothing to do with what is going on with you two.