Hello Hi I'm bisexual OK and I have a friend who claimed not bisexual but he said he's cool to snuggle cuddle with me like really close no space at all which is weird do you think any straight man on earth would allowed this well I still don't know if he's Bi or not but he said he cool with the cuddle snuggle etc.. But he be pushing my hands when I'm trying to touch his penis or lips beside that he cool with everything else what kind of crap is that huh people?

How old are you?

23

First of all, I find it disrespectful that you try to touch his penis if you two aren't even a couple..

Even if he is gay, straight, or bi, that's just uncalled for.

Second, it's hard to say if he is gay, straight, or bi.

I think you should explain to him that the snuggling throws you off.

I think each person gets to define his or her own sexuality in his or her own terms.

So... I think, so far, what he said is what he has wanted and no more and so far you are astonished that his boundaries are really what he said they are.

Don't get me wrong. I know people say what they don't mean all the time. But what if, even if its not "normal", this guy told you the truth?

You've made the advances. He's pushed back. You have an answer.

Are you OK being the aggressor and being denied most of the time? Cause that seems like a best case scenario that hasn't even played out yet.

Hi I'm a 21 years old male I'm here for help with some issues that I'm trying to deal with but don't know so please take your time to read my story and help me or give me some advice.

I found this in another thread where you say you are 21. Which is it? 21 or 23?

How is it disrespectful lol I mean let me mature about it this right now 90 straight men wouldn't allowed that this guy take me for a fool he knows that I love him more than a friend is just that I get so aroused when we cuddle and I know he be feeling my erection what is this crap smh

@ enigma honestly I'm 21 sorry for lying

how is it disrespectful lol i mean let me mature about it this right now 90 straight men wouldnt allowed that this guy take me for a fool he knows that I love him more than a friend is just that I get so aroused when we cuddle and i know he be feeling my erection what is this crap smh

How is it disrepectful? Well, for one, you don't even know what this mans sexual oreintation is.

Second, you two arent' even an exclusive couple.

Third, just because there is snugglin going on doesn't give you the right to grab his junk.

Again, I would have him explain this snuggling deal to you.

@ enigma OK oh well he straight if that's what u want to tell me but understand my feelings when we get close my junk be getting hard I even trying to hump he's still cool with it my reason for asking this question is because the situation is weird do you know what I'm saying

He gave you boundaries.

You crossed them

And you feel like HE is in the wrong for giving you boundaries to begin with?

Whatever he knows about your feelings, HE HAS SAID NO TO YOU.

End of story.

Stop pushing him.

@ enigma ok oh well he straight if that's what u want to tell me but understand my feelings when we get close my junk be getting hard I even trying to hump he's still cool with it my reason for asking this question is because the situation is weird do you know what i'm saying

I understand what you are asking.

I never said that he is straight. I don't know the guy.

Again, I think you should talk to him... Explain to him that this gives you mixed signals.

Do YOU know what I'm saying?

how is it disrespectful lol i mean let me mature about it this right now 90 straight men wouldnt allowed that this guy take me for a fool he knows that I love him more than a friend is just that I get so aroused when we cuddle and i know he be feeling my erection what is this crap smh

Mkay. Lets pretend you are truthful. So... you think he knows you love him. You think he takes you for a fool. You think he knows you are aroused by him.

k.

So... whatthehellisyourquestion? You want us to judge him? Sorry.

Eventually, when it comes to sex, somebody takes a risk. Makes a leap. I don't have an issue with your making an advance. I do take issue with your thinking that his knowing you are attracted to him justifies your continued attempts.

When does no mean no?

So he confuses you... fine. Deal with it. Your life, your decisions, your consequences. He doesn't "make" you anything... meaning he doesn't make you want or feel or need. That's all you.

Synn and enigma in the same thread as me. I'm in heaven. Threakjacking? Yeah, sure.

synn and enigma in the same thread as me. im in heaven. threakjacking? yeah, sure.

Where have you been? ;)

Ok thanks egnima lol sorry about that i asked him but he said he's not life a b%%%% sometimes he knows i'm bi he knows that i want to be with him he even said he's going to move to my house

OK THANKS EGNIMA LOL SORRY ABOUT THAT I ASKED HIM BUT HE SAID HE'S NOT LIFE A B%%%% SOMETIMES HE KNOWS I'M BI HE KNOWS THAT I WANT TO BE WITH HIM HE EVEN SAID HE'S GONNA MOVE TO MY HOUSE

What's with the caps buddy?

Ok then, there you have your answer from him..

OK pple don't get mad @ me for being bi forget about the question

ok pple dont get mad @ me for being bi forget bout the question

Really Problemchild, is that what you think? Mad at you for being BI? Come on.

Nobody is mad at you. You came on here asking a question about this man. We gave you advice. Now it is up to you on how you want to handle it.

What answer @ egnima

First Stop trying to touch his parts.

Second talk to him about this.

Thirdly if he says he isn't bi/gay then don't snuggle with him, sit next to him without touching him. If he is hiding his sexuality he may try to get you to snuggle with him, if he isn't then he will enjoy the freedom.

Who's mad at you for being bi?

*I* am bi. I don't give a hoot about your sexual orientation. I don't give a hoot about your friend's, either.

I'm falling back on my favorite line here: If you cannot TALK about sex with someone, you shouldn't even CONSIDER sex with that person.

Therefore, since you're just cuddling and groping this guy (from what you're telling us), and not TALKING to him, then you can want all you want--you shouldn't consider sex with him. PLUS---he gave you boundaries. He doesn't want to do more than cuddle with you, regardless what you think he knows about how you feel or whatever. How does HE feel? Have you asked him? Have you TRUSTED that what he told you was true?

If you don't like the line he gave you, then stop cuddling with him and look for someone more available. Whether he's gay or bi or the Flying Spaghetti Monster doesn't matter in the least. What DOES matter is that he told you he didn't want you fondling him, and that is the end of it.

ok pple dont get mad @ me for being bi forget bout the question

What an incorrect assumption.

You could have said you were straight and you were repeatedly advancing on a girl and id say the same thing.

Seriously?

I'm sorry. The guilt trip about judging you because you are bi is both bullsh!t and not effective. I'm happy to judge you because you are you, acting as you are, doing what you are doing. Bi has nothing to do with it.

I'm not quite sure about this one. You should talk to him about it and see what he says. Tell him what you are feeling and that it's confusing you.

Regardless if he's gay, bisexual, or straight, he's your friend and enjoys cuddling with you.

Does this mean something more? Probably. Does that give you permission to push the boundaries by trying to touch him? No.

This may be his way of experimenting or experiencing closeness with you, but it doesn't mean he wants to have sexual contact with you. I'd fall back. If he wants you, he'll come after you when he's ready. In the meantime, enjoy what he allows now and stop pushing him into a corner that he doesn't want to be in.