View Full Version : How can I be happy without being jealous of a certain girl?
thembones
Oct 25, 2010, 04:38 PM
I literally had fallen hard for a guy about 2 and a half years ago and now I find that this girl, let's just call her blue, is dating him. Whatever, fine, but now I find the guy I am currently dating also went out with her and I feel irrevocable jealous, it's insane. She's good at EVERYTHING, she's absolutely beautiful, and she makes my current boyfriend still feel feelings for her. I really don't know what to do. On top of that, it kills me to see my ex every day with blue. I do not know how to be happy and ignore all of this, pleaseee someone give me even a spec of advice!! Thanks so much for listening.
clayton_malloy
Oct 25, 2010, 05:30 PM
What you do is tell your boy friend that you don't like him having feelings for the girl and if he still does mabe he should tell the girl
Homegirl 50
Oct 25, 2010, 07:40 PM
You need to deal with this unreasonable jealousy before your boy friend leaves you.
You cannot be happy with anybody if you have such feeling of jealousy over this girl.
Talk to somebody. That is obsession.
mmresd
Oct 26, 2010, 09:14 AM
Thembones, jealousy destroy any relationship. Take it form a jealous type of guy (me) I have lost so much for having jealous thoughts and for acting jealously with the ones I have loved. First, if your current boyfriend is still heartbroken from this girl then you shouldn't be with him because more likely you are going to be used as a rebound. Second, if he doesn't then you are just going to have to bite your tongue and keep your mind entertained so that you don't keep obsessing over this girl. Finally, maybe leaving him would be good because it will give you a chance to get over the whole thing and not have to have any sort of contact (whether direct or indirect) with this girl that is obviously driving you insane. Being happy starts with you, and only you, you are the only person in this world that knows what makes you happy, so instead of wasting so much energy in pondering on how this girl is so "wonderful" why don't you use your energy in trying to improve your life, use this as a motivation to become better and don't let it drive you down. Happiness depends on YOU, so figure out how to do so (which only you can do) and DO IT!!
Good Luck,
Javi